Telling each other where you're going

[Dilbertian]

Dh and I were sitting together in the living room, he's watching a Bond film and I'm half-watching it while MNing, and we're commenting on it to each other from time to time. Then a thread on tinned fruit made me think "Oh, do we have any, or do I need to put it on the shopping list for tomorrow?", so I went into the kitchen to check. Which led to another thing, then another, until 15-20 minutes later I find myself upstairs.

I just walked out of the living room without saying anything and didn't come back. Is that rude? I can't decide. It's not like we're in charge of each other, but normally we'd say something. Expert perhaps for a loo trip during an ad break.

Do you tell each other where you're going when you leave the room?

Erm if you weren't actually having a proper conversation then no it's fine

Did he ask you when you walked back in or something to make you ask this question??

Im just going upstairs to pick up all of your dirty washing you left next to the bed this morning, I wont be a minute

Our house isn't that big. He can usually figure it out for himself.

@AmywithanL

Im just going upstairs to pick up all of your dirty washing you left next to the bed this morning, I wont be a minute

That's more likely to be dh than me and he'd never say it either.

@AmywithanL

Did he ask you when you walked back in or something to make you ask this question??

No, I was just wondering.

Omg I've been told by two ex partners why I leave the room and disappear 😂 I had no bad intentions just got lost and forgot what I was doing and start something else in another room, I think if your not both watching something together then what's the problem.

If either of us got up to go into the kitchen we would ask if the other would like anything whilst going in there, like a brew. Then id go in, flick the kettle on go upstairs and get distracted for an hour or so and forget about the brew

We live in a tiny house but I still find myself bellowing 'where did you go?' if I realised that I'd not seen DH for a few minutes. But I don't ask because I think he was rude not to have told me. I ask because I'm scared he might be eating something yummy without me!

I’d probably say where I was going but that’s because we’d most likely be watching TV together, so either “just popping to the loo. Don’t bother pausing it” or “I need a cup of tea, do you want anything while I’m up?” If he was gaming or I was reading a book and me leaving the room wouldn’t affect what he was doing I probably wouldn’t say anything but then again, I’d probably give him a kiss when I stood up, so wouldn’t necessarily just leave the room.

I always tell my DH where I'm going - usually "going for a wee" or "going to go grab a bit of lasagne" or whatever. It's just nicer! He does the same. I wouldn't necessarily see it as a personal slight, I'd probably just shout to ask if he hadn't told me

Do you tell each other where you're going when you leave the room?

No.

No, not unless we were actively watching a film together etc.

I find it weird when people say ‘I’m just going to the loo / turn the oven on’ etc. My granny used to call this Announcements and disapproved of it. It is a dull way to communicate.

We probably make an “Announcement” (love that term, thanks party!) half the time.

I now have a hankering for tinned fruit, thanks OP!