Lies, confusion, pain

[Needabreakxo]

Hi guys..

I’m dating this guy, and he has completely ghosted me since his ex is back on the scene.

The only way for me to get anything out of him is if I message him loads and he feels the need to address it over the phone for a quick 5 min phone call.

He says when he is back from in a few weeks he’ll talk to me properly about everything, he also says he’ll call and text more but it’s been 2 days without a phone call or text. So I messaged him today and no reply or call. However he does post on insta. I don’t know what to do, do I wait or leave bc I really like this guy but lately I’ve just been thinking what’s the point..

Erm, gather up your self respect, hold you head high, walk away and go find a man that actually deserves you. And maybe have a think about why you find being treated this way in any way acceptable?

Honey please walk away with what’s left of your dignity. I’m sorry you’re being treated like this but yes it happens. I’m going through it myself. My one text at 2pm today after 3 days of silence to say he will ring me in an hour. I didn’t respond. It’s now 10pm and not a word from him. I just muted him and in my head my cut off point is noon tomorrow. If he doesn’t ring with a meaningful explanation, I’m deleting and blocking. I will NOT be contacting him. There are other men out there. I’d write him off and leave him and his ex to get on with it. Hugs 🤗 xx

Block him and move on

@Unicornamy thanks 😊 I really hope you get that meaningful explanation. Just hurts that I’ve just been kicked to the side x

It hurts a lot. But you need to remember that they’re the ones with the issue if they can’t be mature enough to hold an adult conversation and let you know what’s really going on. In my case, if he contacts me , I’ll just see it as an opportunity to express how immature I think his behaviour is- if that ends the relationship (hardly a relationship I’m honest) then fine, if it doesn’t and he wants to work on it, fine too. But let’s try not to be taken for granted xx

Stop chasing a man who clearly doesn't want you or care. It's time to gather up the shreds of your dignity and move on. He isn't worth a second of your time.

He's keeping you dangling incase it don't work out again with his ex. He's got time to contact you if he really wanted to. The more you message, the less he will want you but I think you should give up on this one.

It hurts but stop chasing him.

You're behaving like a weirdo by messaging and messaging him.

His ex is back in his life. He ghosted you.
Get the memo.
There's nothing to discuss. You're dumped.

This happened to me after a 4 year relationship, I don't know who was on the scene but I suspect someone was. Anyway, I basically fell apart, can't tell you how many messages I sent, begging and pleading because it hurt so much. Now I just think 'why the fuck did I lose my head over some piece of shit who treated me like that?' I was besotted with him but now I wonder what the hell i was thinking. My point is, it hurts now but you will realise how much better you deserve, sooner rather than later I hope.

Oh yeah and I do cringe when I remember my behaviour. Urgh.

@category12 the OP clearly hurts. Whatever happened to supporting each other? I think your post on there can be put more kindly no?

You have your pride. Block him x

@borntohula I’m starting to cringe at my behaviour too 😕

[quote Unicornamy]@category12 the OP clearly hurts. Whatever happened to supporting each other? I think your post on there can be put more kindly no?[/quote]
I answer as I think is appropriate. When the shoe is on the other foot, getting a stream of messages from an ex can be seen as harassment.

Op needs to quit it for her own sake and I felt being blunt might be more help than pussyfooting around it. Ymmv.

unicornamy. Your deadline has passed, did he contact you?

Oh yes @Unicornamy did he phone you?? Mines didn’t but I can’t block his number as I’d already deleted it out my phone. Doubt he’ll get in contact with me anyways. He seems to have forgotten my existence

Move on, sweetie. Any man who would act like that isn't worthy of you.

[quote Needabreakxo]@borntohula I’m starting to cringe at my behaviour too 😕[/quote]
OP but dickheads like this bring out the worst in us. They don't even have the guts to say "sorry, I'm just not that into you." Once it stops hurting you will be able to laugh about it.

Abit of an update for you guys. He has ghosted me. Deleted me off all his social media.

Stop chasing him 🌺

I bet his ex would be really pleased to learn he'd been telling you he'd talk to you, etc. How long were you seeing him for?

Block him,don't contact him,you deserve so much better x

@Needabreakxo

Abit of an update for you guys. He has ghosted me. Deleted me off all his social media.

Don't chase him any more - he's telling you loud and clear he doesn't want to hear from you. Horrible and hurtful as it is, you need to redirect your energies to crying it out, talking to your mates or journalling, and leave him out of it from here on. It'll work out for the best in the long run, what's for you won't go by you.