To ask him out?

[Roughandready]

Some background in case it’s relevant- Im separated a year ago from my exh. I’ll be honest, I’ve found it difficult. What he did to me by leaving / possible OW as been hard to cope with. We have two kids and have an amicable relationship but I still feel very angry at what’s he done. But I can honestly say I don’t love him anymore. I’m actually quite happy in myself and have amazing friends around me who have been a free support.

I reconnected with an old work colleague a few months ago. He’s a tradesman now and been doing some work in my house. So we’ve been chatting loads when he’s been in and messaging in between. I know he’s single.
I’d like to ask him out but I’ve literally never done anything like this before! Do men like being asked out?
I’d imagine I come across as pretty confident to him (single mum setting up my own house, professional job etc ) but inside I’m shitting myself!
I’m not actually worried about the rejection. I think I can handle that- what will be will be and all that!
It’s just all so unknown and I feel like a teenager trying to navigate through this!
Any advice would be really great!!

Well done OP! I was routing for you. Enjoy and keep up updated

Great news, OP. Seconding Scooby’s story - my Mum met my lovely Stepdad in her mid-50s when he came to repair her computer.

So I’m chuffed with all your well wishes!

@StarlightLady I think we’re on the same page. The condoms were bought at last weeks shop😊 I can’t take hormone contraceptive as it sends me loopy so thought it was best to be prepared!

It’s certainly made my day but can’t concentrate on my work!!

If the many recent threads are anything to go by, all men are utter shits and you'd best steer clear of this one.

@Ifailed I see that a lot on these threads but your honesty did make me laugh there!

So far there’s no signs that he’s one of them but time will tell. I’m not looking to rush anything, just enjoy abit of fun and company.

He knows abit about my situation and hasn’t run a mile which is a good start, and so far he’s quite considerate and emotionally mature (we’ll definitely more than my ex!).
I’ll have zero tolerance for dickhead behaviour as I don’t need the complication and the stress!

I thought I’d update as since I asked him out, we’ve been out on two dates. Lots of chemistry and loads of chat too. I’m not actually looking for anything serious but just now, it’s lovely and the flirting is a lot of fun.
So thanks for everyone’s advice. I’m glad I posted. I feel abit like a teenager taking a step into the unknown but it’s exciting and it’s certainly given me a boost after a rotten time.

Sounds great OP. Enjoy it.

Yay. Such a lovely update 👏

Yippeee. Tell us more please.

"Do men like being asked out". Are you joking. I'd love it. Go for it!

Lovely, OP.

@Sillysandy just saw your post.
We’ve just been chatting loads, lots of cheeky / flirty messages, a few snogs but nothing else yet.
I was an absolute nervous wreck the first date- I even cried before it! It was a cry for how far id come - asking someone out and having a first date. I was with my ex for over 20 years and he’s the only man I’ve ever been with, so it felt abit overwhelming.
But by the second date I felt more relaxed and I suspect it’ll go further this weekend
He’s really lovely , in tune with the whats going on for me (and I hope I am with him too!). I’ve worn my heart on my sleeve (it’s the only way I know how!) and he’s not ran a mile. So far he’s abit of a sweetheart and I never expected that.
I’d say probably due to lockdown , it’s all very intense though. I’m happy with that just now but I suspect that level of intensity can’t last too long!

Oh fingers crossed op. He sounds lovely.