I left my husband just over a year ago, using domestic abuse services and the police to leave him.
During the last year he was coming to my house daily to see the children, often for only half an hour. He was rude, refused to bathe them without 24 hours notice, left them unattended while they ate and in the bath.
In November I got sick of him refusing to progress with the divorce and his constant declarations of love and involved a solicitor at last. She advised me to change the contact schedule to be out of my home and send a request for Form E to be completed and exchanged. As he went through the roof, I banned him from my home (mortgaged in both our names) and began to record his pick up and drop offs with the children.
His behaviour became increasingly erratic and I decided to report him putting his hands on my neck in December 2019 (the catalyst for me leaving) and an attempted rape some years previously. While I was giving the brief statement in my kitchen, my partner was attempting to fix the home automation for me and found a text file between my husband and his friend/prostitute. Due to the contents in there, I turned it over to the police who then arrested him a couple of days later.
I have a non molestation order against him and he is on bail at the moment. I am trying to work out what will happen in the divorce, I have asked my solicitor to complete Form A for me as he missed the deadline for Form E.
With that background, does anybody know what will happen when Form A is done, what will happen about the savings that I can now see he drained from the savings accounts and what I might expect the judge to say regarding me stopping contact with the children? More than happy to answer questions but I don't know what is relevant and what isn't.
Also, the handhold is because I had been with him since I was 16, I was 35 last year and I've wasted my entire adult life on him and I feel like I could have done so much and that I've missed out on so many things because of him. I've had 3 friends die since November 2019 and I'm terrified I'm going to die and not have done anything that I desperately wanted to do, I'm just so sad about the mess that is my life.