45 years old in London - which dating app / site?

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Psyching myself up to put myself out there after a 4-year relationship. Met my ex through a common interest. I've never used a dating app and only dabbled very briefly with Match / Guardian Soulmates about 6 or 7 years ago.

I am curious which apps / sites people are using now and if some are more frequently used in London than others?

I don't expect to be using them right now due to pandemic, but would like to set up a profile so I that I am ready to go when restrictions are relaxed. (And to be honest, it's going to take me months to get the courage to activate any profile I create.)

I would suggest none of them. Check the online dating threads for reasons

Bumble and Hinge

Have lurked in the online dating threads and know it's not a bed of roses.... sigh

Maybe there are loads of success stories and they are so busy having a good time that they don't get around to posting ?

I feel like I am someone who is pretty plugged in - I am never off the internet - yet I had never heard of Hinge until I started reading the threads on here.

Ah, having just looked up Hinge I realised I'd heard of it a few years back and had forgotten its name. It's the one that in the beginning required Facebook login. I don't have any social media accounts, so immediately dismissed that one. Looks like you don't need that anymore.

Tinder. I found it much the best at roughly the sane age, though not in London. Though the first actual date I went on was my last as I met my now DP.

It was fun chatting though before that.

Good for you WouldBeGood!

My cousin met her husband on Tinder quite a few years ago when it was still very much seen as a hook-up app. Maybe I should give that one a go, too.

I approached it as a distraction and a bit of fun after marriage break up. No expectations!

I know lots of people who have met their Long term partners on Match

I think plenty of fish is more hooks ups from what I've heard from friends.

Yes, that is how I am feeling now. I have no expectations. I was badly let down in my relationship and am considering this as a distraction project. Just thinking about it, planning what I would say in my profile, trying to figure out how to get some photographs (I HATE having my photograph taken and currently have none of myself...not a selfie person), are all ways to occupy my mind with something more than the thought of my ex with the woman (actually, it was more than one, so women) he was cheating on me with.

Someone I work with told me there's one called sosynched that is probably good if you are in London?

Just looked up sosynched. Based on Meyers-Briggs personality types. Not sure I'd be onboard with that. I think I am one of the MB personality types prone to skepticism...