I need words of wisdom for getting over a horrible break up.

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What advice would you give someone who is dealing with the very raw aftermath of a shitty, shitty break up?

I genuinely thought he was the one. But turns out he clearly was not. The little red flags were there and I ignored them like a mug.

I just need to hear little nuggets of wisdom that are going to make me feel less awful.

Thank you in advance.

Crikey. That was quick.

But he’ll have all the time in the world to think now.

Move on nugget.

I'd focus on what you have learned from it. It's not unusual to sense red flags but not be sure what to do about them.

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Crikey. That was quick.

But he’ll have all the time in the world to think now.

Move on nugget.

I know. It's been the shittiest week and it came to a head late last night. What a mess.

Been there, got the scars t-shirt.

Block his number, divert e-mails to a hidden folder, block him on social media.

Easier said than done right now, but find something distracting to do.

Block and delete him from every possible means of contact.

Write a letter to him and get it all out there. Then save it on your pc but for the love of god dont send it to him. Then in a bad moment go back and read what you have written.

It will take time. You cant expect it to be ok in a day or so.

Just do not accept or try to contact him. Contact always causes steps back.

Sorry OP

Block him on every single platform possible. Delete his phone number, all texts, emails etc. Put away anything that reminds you of him. Don’t watch any programmes or films you watched together. Don’t watch any romance films or listen to wailing love songs unless they’re about female empowerment. Exercise. Lots. Clean everything from top to bottom. Sort out cupboards etc. Get a pad & pen and write out a list of everything you didn’t like about him. From the silent treatment to any annoying little habits he had. And add to it as things pop in your mind. If you get tempted to contact him, read the list.

Can you order some new bedding? Doesn’t need to be expensive, just something that he has never slept in. I always liked to either decorate a room or rearrange the furniture. Just something to make it different; something that he isn’t familiar with.

Make plans to do something exciting once things are better. Maybe a solo trip somewhere, doing something you’ve always wanted to do that he never would have done. Or a course? Or a club?

Ooh, and remember the most important thing; your life is not worse because he isn’t in it anymore. It will be better.