Sick of the amount of time he spends in the bathroom on his phone

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Just that really. Just why.
How do women manage to survive without the joy of isolated hours on the toilet with a phone.

My ex did this. We shared one bathroom between 3 of us. Many mornings he would wake up, wake me up, and then disappear into bathroom for at least 30 minutes. I always need the toilet when I first wake up so I'd be bursting the whole time. I'd rather he had left me to wake up myself as I didn't need to be awake when he was, than to wake me up and then leave me dying for a wee for an hour! He also sometimes spent 1-2 hours in the afternoons/evenings in the bathroom - as well as his morning habit.

Yes, I could have knocked and asked to come in - and I did do this at first. I had conversations with him about how unfair it was and how me and dd had to share the same bathroom. I started to resent the fact he carried on, so I would try and wait for as long as I could and only knocked if it was for dd or if it was extremely desperate. I think it harmed me physically as I went through a phase of waking up with a really aching bladder each morning!

I think it's selfish and lazy behaviour. Especially in a home where there is only one bathroom!

If you want to spend time in loo on your phone, surely you can too? It is a moments peace especially if kids in house all day during lockdown. Do you think he has special rights to phone time in loo?

People used to do this habitually in the days well before mobile phones were ever a thing, only it was a book, magazine, crossword etc that they took with them. My Father was one of them, and when quizzed about it he confessed that he always found it 'difficult to go' if his mind wasn't preoccupied with something else entirely. So for him at least, the extended stays weren't simply an excuse to avoid life and gain a bit of solitude, they were actually a necessary part of actually being able to use the loo. I think it stems from childhood use of pottys, because I could never go myself unless i was preoccupied with a colouring book and crayons or such.

In my experience it was to avoid family and the obligations that went with it eg feeding children, bedtime routine, cleaning , childcare.

Take the lock off

My 5 year old son does this 🙈. He's currently been on the toilet for 30 minutes with his iPad. I said he can't possibly still be going to the toilet and his response was "sometimes I just need some chill time" 🤦‍♀️.

The reasons for it aside , it's actually a very unhealthy practice that can result in a number of health issues. It needs addressed for that alone.

Porn most likely !

My ex did this. He preferred to sit & wait for something to come along, rather than needing to go & then a quick in & out like I do.

He could spend literally hours on the loo in the ensuite, laptop plugged in under the door , the occasional turd plopping out of his lazy arse.

DP does this, it’s his ‘thinking’ time , he’ll do research and writing on the lav

I can’t say it bothers me much, I could do the same if I wanted to

My post-baby haemorrhoids would not stand up to this sort of nonsense 🤣.

Seriously though, why men do this is a total mystery to me. If I need the loo, I wait until I feel the urge, go, and I'm in and out in five minutes. Men can sit there for aaaaages. I have no idea why!

My ex, who swore to me he never watched porn, gave himself away when he was in the bathroom, I was in the kitchen, and porn noises came over a blue tooth speaker.