Can anyone help re tinder location please

[FreeAt50]

I've been dating someone who works away. I have friends near that location and one of them found him on tinder. After I picked myself up off the floor I asked him to explain and he says it's an old account that must have picked up his location on the app simply as he was in town. He'd had to log in to the app which he thought he'd deleted apparently, just to delete the account after I confronted him

I'm smelling BS. Surely tinder wouldn't do that if he wasn't even logged in but I don't know. I've never been on it, we didn't meet on a dating site, but he has been on them all.
Gutted doesn't come close right now!

@FreeAt50 I fell for it for 3 years, I wanted to believe it wasn't true but damn the evidence was gross. I can take a lot but never other people. A relationship is about two people anymore and I have to leave.

I'm shocked that he's 50, you are telling me that they don't grow out of this 😜

It becomes so predictable that you believe they should just pack it it, but they can't they are selfish .

Well its over! I calmly asked him about Ourtime and he said his ex would have set it up maliciously. Is that right? Oh, and logged in over the past month?! With the same username and the photos he always uses as they are him looking young and superfit as he was when I met him. How BIZARRE
So now he is going to walk away as he wont be called a liar.
Well I am walking away because I wont live with a cheat AND a liar AND a man child.

Obviously my heart will shatter as I was so clearly way more invested in this than he was. But he will definitely miss my love, care and kindness if nothing else.

Thank you for your advice! Off to the NC thread I go

Big hugs for you OP. I'm sorry this happened to you but you will be better off shot of him. Be strong x

I'm sorry OP. Once a cheat etc.

I recently bumped onto my ex on Hinge which was a massive shock as I think he's with someone too. (mind you he did cheat on me so not sure why I'm surprised).

I'm single at 50 too - it's ok! And far better to be alone than with someone that doesn't deserve you.

My ex did it while we when into a two year relationship - friend spotted him on tinder and he denied it until I send screenshots including pics of him in stuff I had bought him so couldn't have been from before. He then admitted it but played the poor me card - he felt emasculated as I managed to earn more and still make dinner every night because he didn't want to work full time or learn to cook, the poor lamb.

I joined tinder a few weeks after we split up (it was an awful relationship at that stage due mainly to him lying and cheating) and I assume a fried of his must have seen me on there and told me - he had the brass neck to message me saying how heartless it was to be moving on so soon 😂

Oh and my favourite bit was "wow, you must really hate me, you've changed the netflix password. So petty."

Yeah, the passwor to my netflix that I always paid for pal. His dignity wasn't worth £8 a month I guess. God I'm glad I got out!