2 years on and still not allowed to meet partners son

[Mummyhelpplease]

hey,

im really feeling so low and i dont know how much more i can take.

my partner has been in court now for over a year with childcare proceedings.

my partners childs mum has been playing silly buggers the entire time, rescheduling court hearings and basically trying to make our life a misery but she cannot see the person she's actually hurting is her child.

we were due to have court done by christmas but shock horror day before it mysteriously got cancelled??? hmmmm....

she has been blocked on all social media platforms as she has been rude and harassing towards me and my child.

she has now started ringing my partner reporting to him what im doing via looking through other peoples socail media. this has put me at the point to delete all of mine.

i am so upset as what she reported on had videos and pictures of my child. i feel shes trying to invade my privacy and try and get me in trouble.

how do i keep this women away from me and protect myself and my daughters?

if its been 2 years and shes still acting like this please tell me someone that this gets better?

im praying soon that court will go well again and my partner will be able to have proper meaningful access with his child.

will she do this forever ??

Do you live together, could he move out, it's up to him to sort this out.
Ignore his ex, she must want to annoy you.

We're you the OW. Even so her behaviour sounds like harrassment. But you need to leave your partner to deal with her behaviour towards him. If she harasses you report her to the police.

It never got better for me and me and my ex divorced. It was hell

Is this really worth it? It's only 2 years, I would walk away. There is just so much toxic drama, it won't end here. Do you want to live like this for a very long time? If anything got to the point where my child was dragged into it, I would leave and not look back a second. Your child doesn't deserve to be involved in this.

yeah we live together, and have done for over a year now.

the mum is adiment that their child wont be allowed into the house which we share with my child.

i try to explain to my partner that she is playing silly games but obviously he has to do whatever she says as shes in charge re their child.

its is harassment and she already has been reported to the police by me.

just court is sooooo soon and i want her to calm down, realise im not the enemy and allow me, my partner, my child and his to live a semi normal life....shes made it all so weird and awkward. not even my child is allowed to look at her child....

what can i do to protect myself and make sure she doesnt get near to us anymore....

these types of mothers really are upsetting :(

also wasnt the other women....they'd split very soon after their child was born...

everything me and my partner have done has never been rude, to upset anyone, nothing malicious. Weve all acted very well around her however because shes in charge of the child she seems to think she can treat us however she wants. but like i said why cant she see that the real person shes damaging is her child. stopping access with its dad, not allowing the child in the fathers house, not allowing any further relations with fathers extended family.

hes only allowed to see his child ALONE!! and this has been the way since the child was born.

please tell me in not crazy in thinking this is extremely controlling and damaging to the child?

@JillofTrades why would she leave?! I’m sorry but 2 years is not ‘only’ when you’re in a committed relationship.

OP...sorry you’re having to go through this but I won’t leave. I’ll have a serious chat with my partner if I was in your shoes. Let him know that it’s affecting you and your kids and he needs to do something about it!

Do you think he can’t handle her?

shes got him right by the balls...

shes says jump....

im praying that at the final hearing this can all be put to bed but i just need to know how to protect myself?

Honestly, I'd walk away.

I know that sounds harsh, but whatever happens in court won't resolve this. I'm a decade into something similar, and we still get grief now.

If you can ignore her and accept her behaviour then fine, but you won't stop/change her.

I love DP, but if I'd have known then, what I know now, I'd have run like the wind!

Walk away. You don't have kids with this man so get yourself out asap. Do you want to be tied to this woman forever? And a man that she has by the balls, who will always choose her because she is his kids mother. Life is too short. Get out of this mess asap.