Long distance relationship during covid. Struggling.

[Theredone5]

Hello!
I'm looking for some advice.
I met someone during this pandemic and its going really really well despite current circumstances.

However, I'm looking for some advice about if it would be 'ok' to meet him.
He lives about 60 miles from me. I'm in London. He lives alone as do I. I'm not seeing anyone , not even my bubble as they had covid and still not recovered.
I'm really starting to miss him and although he is so good and says he will wait .. how long do I wait?! This pandemic doesn't seem to want to let go and it's absolutely awful here in london, cases are rising!
I last saw him 2 weeks ago and now I'm just all over the place with my emotions 😒
Would I be Unreasonable to break lockdown measures to meet him for a social distance walk? And I literally mean just that, nothing else.

Also is anyone else is a LDR during this pandemic ?

Thank you

This pandemic doesn't seem to want to let go and it's absolutely awful here in london, cases are rising!

You realise that is due in large part to people breaking the lockdown restrictions?

If everyone makes a couple of exceptions for their own individual circumstances, they add up to the pandemic lasting longer and longer.

Starting a relationship during a lockdown was always going to be tough and I appreciate you want to see him but you are breaking the rules if you do so and will be fined if questioned, if you tell the truth.

It's your choice of course, but it's not one that helps stop the pandemic and is particularly selfish IMO if you're coming from an area with such high cases!

You're going to drive sixty miles and then maintain a two metre distance? I don't believe you.

Just check the government guidelines. You can bubble with him as you need 10 days between your previous bubble until you can join a new bubble. However, your boyfriend must not be a part of another support bubble. You can travel any distance for that support bubble. There are all the details of this on the gov.uk site for reassurance. My partner lives 180 miles away and as we both live alone we can bubble. However, if he is away for a length of time (over 10 days) then I will bubble with my daughter. All above board and written down in the government website if you are not sure.

My partner and I have only recently been allowed to bubble due to a change in his circumstances. We are 80 miles apart and spent March -July totally apart, then started meeting outside halfway at weekends for walks. Once they allowed the rule of 6 we then started staying over and haven't stopped. Like I say though we are now allowed to form a bubble.

It sounds like you're already part of a bubble? If so then there's not much you can do for now except meet for exercise but I guess there's nowhere that's local to you both? I totally sympathise with you it's so difficult

We've done it before. We can do it again I just want to see him 😔 but I know I shouldn't legally

To the pp who asked about social distancing, my partner and I did, it was awful but we did! (Mind you we've been together years so that probably helped!!!!)

Haven't seen my DP since 14 December and over the summer is was close r to 4 months. it's tough, I just want a hug, although being as I'm 13 days since covid positive test probably best not anyway.

I do feel for you, at least we are years together so no insecurities, Just miss him. Normally i stay with him whilst working (120 miles from my home) but currently WFH so don't know when I'll be called in for the onsite rota which is when i will see him next.

So - you know that people in your bubble who you presumably have had contact with have got Covid - yet you're considering driving 60 miles to meet someone else? And you live in London one of the epicentres of the current surge in cases?

Please don’t be harsh to the OP. Whatever the legal/moral rights and wrongs, and whatever it is she should/shouldn’t do (and I’m not sure where I stand on this) she doesn’t deserve cruel & sarcastic comments.

Please think in your responses of the human behind this post and respond kindly, even if you’re saying for her not to meet her BF. She doesn’t need a kicking. She lives alone, in a time of a pandemic, is probably feeling isolated, lonely, missing human touch and missing the person who has made life less wretched.

My partner lives 40 mils away but we are each other's support bubble so see each other but are limiting this over lockdown to EOW.

I miss my entire family, but we all have our part to play.
The more people selfishly do what they want the longer this crap will last.
Protect yourself and him and just wait. If it's not strong enough to last, it wasn't meant to be.

@MuckyPlucky

Please don’t be harsh to the OP. Whatever the legal/moral rights and wrongs, and whatever it is she should/shouldn’t do (and I’m not sure where I stand on this) she doesn’t deserve cruel & sarcastic comments.

Please think in your responses of the human behind this post and respond kindly, even if you’re saying for her not to meet her BF. She doesn’t need a kicking. She lives alone, in a time of a pandemic, is probably feeling isolated, lonely, missing human touch and missing the person who has made life less wretched.

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Thanks for your replies

Just to add, I have had 2 private covid swabs and 1 NHS Test recently which were all negative.
I'm alone as I cannot even see my support bubble and I guess I'm just struggling.
I was going to do a covid swab before we met again anyway so I know I'm clear and he is too.
Technically he is my support bubble but just almost 60miles away...
We shouldn't meet I know, but I'm not sure I can last until March. I really can't 😔

You are allowed to travel any distance to see your support bubble. Mine lives about 20 miles away and I will not feel guilty for seeing 1 other person (who also lives alone) so that we both don't lose our marbles completely. The same people bitching about you travelling to see him will be the ones that go to 4 supermarkets a week! Make sure you've not had any contact with your previous support bubble for 10 days before seeing him though as you may test negative for Covid but then display symptoms after. This is Government advice. Hope you're okay!

Meet him half way for a nice walk in a quiet park or the woods?. What harm can that really do if you both not mingling with others?

Where you live are you allowed to meet 1 other person outdoors for exercise ?