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Married and now its getting frustrating

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Claire921 · 11/01/2021 23:33

So me and my partner have been having a rocky relationship for some while. 2 kids with 1 born 8 months ago. We had a recent argument as he seems to be giving all his time to work, doesnt call text me, doesn't say anything nice to me, doesnt help me with house chores. Just works works works

Ive told him tonight that he needs to be involved in home life and if hes taking the Sunday of he needs to be involved with us instead of carrying on with work on his laptop all day.

I might seem like im nagging but this has been like this for a long time and i feel very lonely and upset for the kids they only see him for 10 mins or so . The kids miss out on him. He gets home once were all in bed ready to go sleep.

I told him if he doesn't want to be in the marriage we will separate, we been sleeping separate for a week and not even speaking. He seems to keep saying hes had enough of arguments, and that i should leave him to work as he wants a better future bla bla..
I told him kids are only kids once and its not fair on all of us. Hes not really bothered if we leave or not by the sounds of it. I did once and he just sat on the sofa smurking!! House is on his name i pay most things from my maternity money.

Dont know what to make of this. Anyone been in this situation.

OP posts:
Geppili · 12/01/2021 00:58

What are his contracted hours of work per week? And how many over that is he working? Are you financially stable?

Geppili · 12/01/2021 00:59

Your situation sounds financially abusive.

HeyDuggeesCakeBadge · 12/01/2021 01:19

Yes, I was in this exact situation after my second DC. Its less easy to hide when you have 2 and my partner struggled massively. He's a bit better now, but not much and I wish I'd left back in the day.

When do you go back to work? Will you be able to support yourself financially if you were to leave?

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