Cheating but not cheating ??

[Bree25]

Do you think it’s possible that there are men out there who push the boundaries of cheating because maybe the idea excites them maybe because there drunk or bored with life but never go through with it ?
I know some 100% do and then there are some
That never entertain the idea but what about the ones Inbetween ?
Is it possible a man would sign up to a dating / hook up site one night after too much to drink but never follow through with meeting up ?
Is it possible a man may send enquires to prostittues when drunk for the excitement but not have the intention of acting out just likes the idea of knowing he could / can or the excitement of getting a message back / doing something taboo ?

Thanks for the replies it’s so hard to get my head around , you wouldn’t think it of him , he doesn’t come across sleezy or anything , only social media he has is Facebook and never likes other females pictures or anything , never adds anyone he doesn’t no or messages people on there , he doesn’t have female friends , it’s hit me out of the blue. He used to have abit of an issue with gambling never like a full blown addiction he’s always paid his bills etc when I’ve read about this kind of behaviour it says it can fall into the category of addictive behaviour

You mentioned being him drunk several times in your op.

Now a gambling addiction is mentioned.

Plus he's doing this.

Whether he truly has addiction issues or not; doesn't sound like an all around good partner.

Back on the original issue - signing up to, browsing, communicating etc on dating, sex and prostitute sites is totally and utterly inappropriate behaviour in a relationship .. and if it's due in any part to addictive behaviour, that doesn't make it any better. Just means they're more likely to keep doing it, or doing something that's unfair.

But I'm always very wary of the addiction excuse for shit behaviour anyway. Seems like a good way of getting out of responsibility.

Do you think he'd still be there if you were the one signed up on & browsing sex sites like Illicit Encounters, Ashley Madison, fab swingers etc and on male escort sites enquiring about prices etc.?

And if you said it was due to addictive issues, do you think he'd be like "ah ok, maybe we should get counselling for you, you poor thing" (which is the next thing on the agenda in the addiction theory .. months and years of wasting time on counselling which often seems to devolve into pointing the figure at the wife and everyone else and what they need to change).

Turned around, these things would pretty much always result in the woman being called a slut/slapper/unfit mother etc.
But somehow with men it's all psychology, excuses, minimising etc.

*past gambling addiction

I would be furious and would be leaving him.