Feeling sad tonight..

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As my title feel like sad as just feel so lonely in my marriage, little ones are fast asleep both under 4 and husband still at work. Hes like this nearly all week leaves at 9am comes back 10pm-12pm

We dont even speak after his back cause hes tired, and we dont even communicate all day about anything. Hes self employed but i feel like his been like this since my first born.

I do all the house errands, and just feel exhausted just want someone i could speak to and cuddle at the end of the night.

We are not really even on talking terms at the moment as we had a disagreement over the weekend where he spent the whole Friday evening with his mate. I was a bit hurt cause i cooked nice dinner and wanted to spend some time i.e watch movie/have a laugh. Once home i told him how i felt he ripped up one of my favourite wedding picture that i had up on the memo board and that really hurt me as i found a piece of the floor today. I dont understand why he did that btw, was it because he didnt want to hear anything about the marriage from me or...

I dont know if hes checked out and doesn't really care or just my mind playing games. Thanks for listening x

Oh love xxx you sound so sad

Has it been like this for a while? What on Earth does do for a job to work those hours?

Have you told him how you feel?

It sounds like he has checked out and is using work to fill the void. When he has the opportunity to be with you or his friends he chose his friends
I would say ripping up the wedding photo is symbolic.

Sorry your feeling this way. Doesnt sound like a happy marriage at the moment. How is communication normally when all is good or before children?
The first thing to do would be to tell him how your feeling, but, not yet...think about how you would tell him first and try and have answers to any questions or have a plan on whatever his reaction might be. Hopefully someone else will cone along and offer some better support and advice too.

Your right he is being a crap husband at the moment.
His hours sound rediculous even for someone self employed.

Ask him directly if he's checked out of the marriage.
Very poor behaviour.

You sound lovely by the way.

He’s vile. Is he really working?

Ive told him many time
He just tells me hes doing all this for the kids. I get that but we are also here currently. I told him he really needs be more time organised its not fair.

Havent still heard from him either.
He hasnt apologised for his behaviour and has been sleeping separately since

@AlwaysCheddar im not to sure, he could he could be lying.

He’s doing all what for the kids? He can’t ever see them!

Nah He’s doing it for himself - I’m sure he’s telling himself he’s being a good father, a good provider but he isn’t. He’s just using the house as somehete to eat, sleep & shower.

He’s taking the piss!

How long have you been together?

Seems so. Been together 5 years @Biscuitsanddoombar

He just tells me hes doing all this for the kids

The kids are only kids for such a short time so he isn’t doing it for them.

By the time he has finished doing what he is doing his kids will gone and have their own lives in which he won’t be a part of because he will be a stranger to them.

The least he can do is be truthful.
He is doing all this for himself.

Why was he with a friend on Friday evening is what I’m wondering- exercising?!
He needs to be told that it’s not good enough. And if his initial response isn’t to apologise and agree to some change then he’d be gone if it were me.