How to approach the ghost

[Silvermockingbird]

Hello all. Just looking for some advice.

I’ll keep it short. Basically I’ve been ghosted. This has hit me pretty hard. I thought everything was going well and in the right direction but obviously not.

My issue is this- the ghost (or ghoster) in question lives local. So local that pre- lockdown I bump into him daily. I feel moving on from this will be tricky as I’ll potentially be faced with a constant reminder of the situation every day.

What should I do when I see him? Should I ask him why? Say hello and just walk by? Stop and ask how it’s going and see if he voluntarily offers an explanation? Not looking forward to any awkward encounters.

Can you think of a phrase that you can repeat to yourself (in your head!) when you see him? Like a mantra? To create the right facial expression? Like a jokey 'Ha! Look what the cat drug in!', or a sarcastic 'Oh, you poor pathetic little ghost...'

Certainly don't let any thoughts of entertaining him with conversation bother you. Make sure your look is the sort of look that will shut his trap. Vow to yourself that you will never speak a single word to him again. Not one. So 'What will I say if...' stops being an issue. Literally turning on your heel and walking away when he's mid sentence or has just said hello is perfect.

That’s a really great idea. These replies have made me feel 10 times better. Given me such a laugh too!

Oh god PLEASE call him by a different name! A slightly different one would be even better. So if he is...

Rob - 'Oh hi Ron'

Dave - 'Oh hi Dan' (reverse if necessary)

Ollie - 'Oh hi Ozzie'

Nick - 'Oh hi Neil'

hahahahahaha!!!!!

@Eckhart

Can you think of a phrase that you can repeat to yourself (in your head!) when you see him? Like a mantra? To create the right facial expression? Like a jokey 'Ha! Look what the cat drug in!', or a sarcastic 'Oh, you poor pathetic little ghost...'

Certainly don't let any thoughts of entertaining him with conversation bother you. Make sure your look is the sort of look that will shut his trap. Vow to yourself that you will never speak a single word to him again. Not one. So 'What will I say if...' stops being an issue. Literally turning on your heel and walking away when he's mid sentence or has just said hello is perfect.

Yes definitely this too. My suggestion: get a mental picture of that awful alien t-shirt with the face and the 'I WANT TO BELIEVE' slogan, but superimpose his face on it instead and imagine yourself getting a t-shirt with him photoshopped on. DO YOU BELIEVE IN... GHOSTS?!

You will then want to PEE yourself laughing when his ethereal form floats into view.

Oooooooooooo

Erm what!? Return the favour and walk straight past as though he doesn’t exist. If he speaks then I’d just go with the “oh, it’s the ghost” ignore what he has to say, laugh and walk off

Hello (icy politeness) and keep walking. Don’t even slow down.

Yes. This.

I personally wouldn't even look the road he was on. Give him the same treatment he gave you.

Just walk past, don’t say anything. If he

If he speaks tell him not to bother trying to be polite. Tell him you’ve already worked out he’s got bad manners, then flounce off knowing you’re a million times better than him.

Hi Caspar.

My suggestion: get a mental picture of that awful alien t-shirt with the face and the 'I WANT TO BELIEVE' slogan, but superimpose his face on it instead and imagine yourself getting a t-shirt with him photoshopped on. DO YOU BELIEVE IN... GHOSTS?!

This had me smirking

@UpShutTheFuck

Hi Caspar.

Oh YES