how to go about a break up?

[cosmikdebris]

our relationship is only getting more and more toxic. we've been together 2.5 years and we've been through what feels like a lot more than most people. we also have a 6 month old. ive never broken up with anyone, and our daughter makes everything more and more daunting.
i dont know where to start. ill have to move out as he is the primary tennant in our current place, but i have about 10 pounds to my name because he controls our finances and im currently unemployed. i dont have a phone, we're struggling for money a lot and i had to sell it so we could eat.
ive never lived alone, and my family havent spoken to me since the birth of our daughter because they think i 'made a mistake and need to learn from it'. i have no friends to stay with. im 20, and im just scared.
i want him to be able to see our daughter regularly too. i dont know who can help me and dont know where to start. im terrified and i feel completely alone. some advice would be appreciated :)

Hey, I had my youngest at 17..my family disowned me for the same reasons.. Never spoke to me since.
My relationship broke down and I had to move on my own, luckily a friend helped me out.. Do you have anypne who could help you financially or a friend for a while? Know it's covid so?!.. Its hard but you'll be OK. Hugs

Would your family not support you now?
Would they not give you a place to stay?

havent got any friends and ive had no one since school, always been a big loner. anyone i do know are students living in shared accomodation which isnt exactly baby friendly. i think im going to hold on until the next health visitor visit in a few weeks and ask to speak to her alone, mabe she can offer me a helpline or let me use her phone

reading your comment brought a tear to my eye, thank you so much for your response, it means so much to me and i never thought id hear someone be in the same situation as me. thank you.

How about your local job centre or Cab.. I wouldn't know to be honest what's the best route and know its harder at the moment but there are people thay can help. I know it feels lonely and scary at the moment. I will never forgot it.. BUT it makes you strong and you can do this.. Keep us posted and feel to pm me if you want to talk x

1. i wouldnt trust my family around my daughter. my father lives abroad and my mother lives in the same city. my childhood was full of manipulation and emotional abuse and i dont need that now, especially after everything theyve put me through. my mothers main resort for dicipline was smaking. it happened to me and i saw it with my younger sister and i couldnt imagine putting my little one through that.

1. i wouldnt even know how to contact them. neither are on social media and i heard my mother got married again but i wouldnt know her surname.

Contact womens aid OP and tell them about his controlling behaviour and that you have no funds. You may be able to get support via refuge or other assistance.

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Contact womens aid OP and tell them about his controlling behaviour and that you have no funds. You may be able to get support via refuge or other assistance.

Please do this OP x

Yes, women's aid will help you OP. Talk to them. I've been not in your situation as no child at that point - and I understand that makes a BIG difference and makes it much more scary. But I lived alone from 16 to escape abuse and left with nothing. I now have a degree and my own house and two wonderful children. It can be done, from starting with nothing. You do not have to live this way and absolutely should leave, for you and for your girl. You can do this. When you are presented with no other options like this, you'll find that you're much stronger than you think you are.