Day of Insulting

[Twinkles23]

This was because he spent all afternoon in bed yesterday while I worked, and still looked after the kids. I’m working again today and he tried to leave me all afternoon again, so I called him out on it. I haven’t raised my voice once or been angry. But I recieved these insults:

I’m a bad mum
I haven’t worked for anything in my life
I’m spoilt
Go and lie up in bed and look at your phone
All I do is create problems
I do nothing around the house
We aren’t friends anymore
I’m a horrible piece of work
I tread over people
I manipulate people
I saved your life and payed your way

When I ask for examples of things he is saying. He then says he doesn’t want to talk.

Is he usually like this? Because he sounds like a tosser. Hope you are ok. X

If you can afford to leave, then leave. If you can't, save up. He sounds like a really selfish, lazy prick.

When he gets angry yes. Today I decided to actually write down each insult. Was shocked at how many I receive. It doesn’t happen often, but he’s in an awful mood today.

He’s not lazy, he does a lot around the house. But when I’m working I expect him to look after the kids. He works all week, and I look after the kids and home school them all week by myself. Thought it would be reciprocated. But obviously not. Instead I get abuse

We can't tell you if what he's saying is true or not because we don't know you. I can admit though that he could've said things in a nicer way. We all need a break sometimes and it sounds like you were disturbing him when he was having his and that doesn't seem fair. I don't know what yoru situation is though so can't really say.

And what makes him angry? You not doing what he wants?

1950s is a very apt username

Because I answer him back and call him out when he tells little lies. He said he went up for 2 hours yesterday. He went up from 1-6. It sounds petty but I see it as gaslighting. He will move what happened in reality to set his agenda.

@Caaarrrl

1950s is a very apt username

Took the words out my mouth 🙄

He's just nasty.

He's an emotionally abusive prick and you are better off without that in your life

You are out of your god damn mind @1950s1 and your advice is ludicrous

I get massively triggered by reading stuff like this. Women's work, paid or otherwise, takes second place. Their unseen donkeywork is ignored. The manchild wins.

Just fuck him off as soon as it's safe and practical to do so.

What did you learn about relationships when you were growing up, did you see your mum being treated like this by dad?.

What do you want to teach your children about relationships and what do you think your children are learning here?.

How can you be helped into ridding yourself of your abuser?.

Anyone saying this to you doesn’t like you, doesn’t respect you, doesn’t care about you