OLD - Texting after split

[SnowyWinterDays]

New here and I need some advice please about this situation.

Met a man OLD last year, we dated for a while and then due to various factors it ended. It was his decision and I was upset as I thought we got on well and I really fancied him.

The problem now is that I still hear from him everyday, just by texts. It's nothing meaningful....mainly just how's your day, or general chit chat, nothing about 'us' rekindling.

I know it's lockdown so not much can happen anyway but I'm very confused. We did go through a period of no contact after the split so maybe he thinks all is okay now and he's just being friendly?

I'm too nervous to broach anything about 'us' as he has said nothing to make me think he's having second thoughts.

I do enjoy hearing from him so I don't want to not speak to him, I just feel a bit stuck. I would really like to try again with him, but if he wanted that he would say?

Great message @ravenmum ! Send that, OP.

Thanks for the replies.

Because of how I do feel about him though I really don't want to say goodbye 😔

Is there any way I could gauge if he is interested without embarrassing myself and potentially being rejected? I'm guessing he thinks I'm completely over it.

Next time he says something flirty, replly something like "I'm starting to think you're having second thoughts about us breaking up" with multiple laughing smileys. If he doesn't grab that opportunity, it's a no!

@SnowyWinterDays

Thanks for the replies.

Because of how I do feel about him though I really don't want to say goodbye 😔

Is there any way I could gauge if he is interested without embarrassing myself and potentially being rejected? I'm guessing he thinks I'm completely over it.

Bloody hell. Ask him, if you're that bothered, but he's made it pretty clear to you already, when you were dating and he told you he didn't want to any more.

You often hear the story.... 'we met OLD but it didn't really work out, we weren't right for each other so now we're just good friends'

Perhaps that's what he thinks you are?

Is this one of your only relationships to date OP? Or are you quite young? I hate that phrase on here but you seem to not understand that there is always risk with dating and that people aren't obliged to sort of 'like you back' like you want them to. He told you he wasn't interested in a relationship. He has texted you since then but with no indication he wants a relationship. So you need to accept that and move on, or tell him how you feel and 'risk' him not feeling the same. You can't have it all the the way you'd like to - that's just not life!

He isn't interested in you. He told you that and ended the relationship.

Honestly, your repeated posts show that you're not listening and you are just waiting for someone to tell you there is still a chance for you with him.

You're wasting your time. Just block him.