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Partners with Depression

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AnyHopePlease · 09/01/2021 21:33

Hi anyone

New to this so please bear with. It wouldn’t let me post the whole message.

Really struggling and don’t know who to turn to. Does anyone have a partner suffering with depression. What can I do to help? How can I get the emotional support I need?

I hope someone can give some advice!

Thanks

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Rivercath · 09/01/2021 22:38

Hi didn’t want to read and run, but I do. My OH has had it for the past 4 years. With him though he may have some months when he’s great and some when he’s not. When he’s not it’s tough. He’s not a nice person to be around and living on eggshells is a lonely place. I’m not sure if you feel the same but I often suffer from depression myself. I find that I withdraw from the world. I support him as best I can and give him the space he needs. But ultimately I find that he needs to take ownership for his health too.

In terms of support I don’t feel that I have the answer but I do confide in a friend and that helps.

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AnyHopePlease · 09/01/2021 22:50

Thank you for your message!

He went to the doc when I was pregnant and they prescribed antidepressants and he felt the doc wasn’t much help. He tried them for several months then got lazy taking pills so stopped. We had our son April 2020 so have suffered the usual newborn tension and tiredness and added Covid stresses and lack of support. I’ve found whenever i try to talk to him or feel upset he has limited response. It ends up with him going into a sulk and refusing to talk to me. We spoke more just after Christmas where he said he is depressed. Has no motivation, no enjoyment, forgetful, lack of focus, mood swings etc. I find I have to bottle things up and just get on with it for my sons sake and do get low. I have a good network of mum friends and going for walks with them has helped me massively but there are some things I don’t want to discuss with them because our husbands also know each other and want them to create bonds.

I don’t know how to help him because he won’t help himself. How can I support him if he won’t talk to me. He told me today I should just go to other people for emotional support which is heartbreaking as want to be able to turn to him first.

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toddlfc · 28/09/2021 22:45

I feel we could be in the same boat.
I have a partner who at the moment just wants me too agree with everything they say and if not it’s a row

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