Friend has just told me her DH hits her

[whattodo2019]

My friend has told me today that her husband hits her. The last incident was 3 days ago and she called the police for the first time and he was taken to the police station but she was too scared to make a statement. at the police station he told police she was violent to him ..... He was then driven back to the family house.

She is now terrified.... The last time he hit her was 1 year ago. I don't know anymore.

She doesn't work, is mid 50's, has no money of her own sand has 3 school age kids.

She has no idea how she can realistically get out of this relationship....

Sorry to hear this, she needs to call women's aid ASAP

Definitely she needs to call Women‘s aid.
Or the police and give the statement.
Or both

@Krazynights34

Definitely she needs to call Women‘s aid. Or the police and give the statement. Or both

she won't give a statement. i have tried to make her but she is simply too scared

All you can do is be a good friend and listen to her. Maybe direct her to mumsnet for an objective view on her relationship?
You can't force someone to see stuff, but you can try to help them move in the right direction

Women's Aid, she doesn't have to talk to the police

In a way by telling you she is asking for help but she maybe doesn’t see it that way

Explain this to her, that she has come to you for help and you will be with her each step of the way and slowly and gently you can explain how women’s aid and the police can help and again how you will help her with it all and lessen the burden for her

Don't be too despondent if she doesn't leave soon. Or if she distances you and plays happy families. Just say you understand her fear of leaving or making a statement, but that she does not deserve to be abused in her own home and that you think she can take the first step without committing to anything. Send her a link safely to the Freedom Programme.