How to get over crush?

[BlueberryMuffin123]

Hello!

This might sound really stupid but I've never actually been in a situation like this so, please bare with me.

I have a crush on a coworker since 2 years and really want to get over it. Changing job is not an option btw.

What I currently do is to avoid him as much as possible and only communicate with him when necessary.

I really want to get over this but somehow my mind just won't let me and it's annoying the heck out of me!

Any tricks or tips? :(

Try and enjoy it. The more you resist it the more it will torture you and prolong itself.

He's presumably unavailable? Or you are?

I'm available, he's not. So big no no!

Make sure you're mind is always full so you don't have time to focus on him! Job, hobbies, skills, friends, reading, TV, exercise, chores, etc.

Also, how much interaction have you actually had with this man? I had a chronic crush for years and realised that I actually had a crush on the romanticised, imaginery version of him that I had concocted in my head - I actually hadn't interacted with the real him much at all.

I'm trying my best to keep myself busy. Sometimes this works, sometimes it doesn't.

I really wish I could just put him in the "friend zone" and move on. 😑 We're never going to be together. I'm aware of that.. But for whatever reason my hormones or whatever else is responsible for creating crushes apparently hasn't quite gotten the message yet.

I regularly interact with him so, I know him quite well. I honestly don't even know what it is exactly about him that draws me to him so much. I just want to get over it so badly.. 😣 It's just so silly!!

You need to get interested in someone else

Every single time you're speaking to him, imagine his wife or girlfriend standing / sitting next to him and her being really nice and friendly. Behave accordingly and as respectfully as you would if she was there. That's the simplest way I can think of.

Find someone available, join OLD even just to chat, a one way crush is a pointless waste of headspace that is never going to happen so look for someone that can fulfil reality.

I had a crush once. I chatted online but never met up with him. He started dating someone and I carried on chatting from time to time. Lost contact for a while. He was serious. Then we met very briefly at a gig. He was still with the same female. Chatted a bit, it became sexual he moaned about settling with her, they were moving in together, she was after him for his money. I listened he became sexual. I ended it when I realised he was using me.

I imagine he is still with her and still moaning. I didn't check, I went non contact. He wasn't really what I thought he was. I had concocted a lovely man but he was with someone and leading me on - he therefore was not special at all.

It's hard when you like someone. He is with someone. Keep busy limited the contact and keep busy busy busy. Make a list of his flaws!