Struggling to let go of abusive relationship, he’s with another woman.

[Elleinad93x]

So I left nearly 6 months ago. He was extremely abusive, mentally and physically. I went back a few times but left again as despite all of his promises, he hadn’t changed and I was stupid to think he had.

The whole time he was seeing another woman, who he kept claiming was just a friend but it turns out otherwise. The final time I stopped speaking to him, I sent her all the messages he had been sending me so she could see what had been going on. She thanked me, but they are still together. I know I shouldn’t have done so, but I hate the fact he is so so awful but just gets away with it.

I cannot stop checking up on him, I don’t want to be with him, I don’t even like him, I hate him for what he did to me but I cannot help myself. I know I need to stop because every time it just hurts me. Has anyone got any tips? Has anyone been in a similar situation? Please help x

The problem with being abused is it creates a sort of dependency with the abused person feeling they can't function without their abuser. You need to become angry and stop feeling upset.
I suppose it's a bit like being bereaved in that you crave any sort of attention as anything is better than being ignored.
You need to work this out and maybe get help in order to get this horrible situation into some sort of perspective.
You need to start loving yourself again.
Get help from a counsellor or a friend maybe ?