I have been married for 20 years, 3 kids. Our marriage has been over for a long time and early last year I told him I didn’t love him anymore and we were over. He was very controlling. In February I reconnected with an old flame and we had a phone relationship till July. I filed for divorce in june. my husband would not accept this and would not cooperate with the divorce in any way. He planted listening devices, tracked my car, stalked me and eventually hacked into all my electronics devices. He was tinder dating etc for months himself. However, my relationship with this new man who I totally love hit a few issues. We were out one evening and he chatted up another girl as he was very drunk and flirty and got her number, a month later i met him after a work night out and he was out with his colleagues. He was over an hour late when he said he’d be 15mins and a lady rung his phone so many times in our room and he replied cheeky xx whilst I was in the bedroom. This made me have such doubts I texted another man for a few weeks and when I realised what I was doing and he meant absolutely nothing to me I stopped. I think my head was so messed up with thoughts he would leave me I pushed him away maybe on purpose as in a way to protect myself.
However my husband hacked into all my accounts and sent them to his sister, my sexting the other guy, which had ended way before, and then she sent them to my favourite man. My husband has since been arrested, he can’t come near me or the house. He has no contact with kids, he’s refusing to cooperate with the police and it’s all just so exhausting. I love this guy so much and we both made mistakes, but he isn’t sure he can move on from my sexting. And can I move in from what he’s done? We live 3 hours apart and I’m a total secret in his life as he is divorcing his wife but still lives with her and his 3 kids. This also made me feel rubbish.. Help???