My DP is into swinging!!

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I knew he had this fetish when i met him. we ever did anything together, but he hads done in the past. The other night I cought him on a swinging website. I asked him not to look at it as it made me feel uncomfortable.

He would never cheat on me (I hope), yet i don't like the thought of him looking at it. He reckons it's like porn, yet he chats to people in forums! should I be worryed?? AIBU??

I wouldnt like it, but tbh, i f you knew he had doneit in the past, its prob never gonna go away, as a thing he is in to.

I couldn't handle that! But then I don't like my man looking at porn either. I don't think you are being unreasonable, but you did know about it when you met him so don't know what you can do other that talk to him about it.

this would worry me. a lot. but perhaps i am a born again prude. I have a big problem with porn too and dh respects this and knows its not on for him to look at stuff that freaks me out. i think you really need to tell him how it makes you feel, and ask him to stop. the chatting to others is out of order imo and takes it out of the realm of fantasy.

You're not being unreasonable. One of the biggest drivers for unfaithfulness is opportunity and he seems to be providing himself with opportunities even if he's telling himself and you that he won't act on them.