Feel insulted or respect the honesty

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My partner dislikes giving oral
Sex . He dislike the ' sensations' . I love giving. I Don't Mind not receiving as it doesn't rock my world but he feels
He should do it to me as I do it to him. He's never tried .
I have told him that I don't want him to feel
Pressure as I wouldnt be comfortable if he actively disliked it with me. He is inexperienced in that way he said , although our intimate relationship is wonderful and mutually giving( besides oral) . He is a generous lover. So would you feel insulted or respect his honesty and let it be? I can live without it . It has never added hugely to my gratification .

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Let him be, no-one should do things they don't like. If all ok elsewhere, it's not an issue.

Ehh I mean I find it a bit odd when men are really against it - but it wouldn't really bother me personally as it's not my favourite either. I am confused how he dislikes the 'sensations' if he hasn't done it before?

Helloand thanks . He has done it before, he is inexperienced in that area and when he did do it, he didn't enjoy it .

Respect the honesty. Many people dislike oral both giving sand/or receiving and no one should feel any pressure to do anything they don’t enjoy sexually.

Why would you feel insulted?

I guess that he hasn't tried . He feels he should try , because I give it to him but I've explained that I would hate for him to feel he HAD to instead of Wanting to iykwim. Thanks

If he is not keen and you don't care then surely this is a non-issue for you. Just reassure him that he needn't bother trying.

I don’t see the reason for your post ?
He doesn’t like it and your not that fussed either so what’s wrong

I suppose I am
Asking if he is being selfish ?

But he has offered and you turned his offer down. How is he being selfish?

I wouldn’t think it selfish to tell a partner, sorry I don’t enjoy performing oral, so won’t be doing it. It would be more selfish to pressure a partner to do oral on you when you know they don’t enjoy it/makes them uncomfortable. In fact, depending on the dynamics it could even cross line into coercive sex which is illegal most countries.

He doesn't want to, you don't especially enjoy it.

So tell him this, but share with him something else that you enjoy sexually that you would like him to explore with you?

It's give and take, not like for like.

I would feel neither insulted or respect the honesty. Everyone has things they like and don’t like 🤷‍♀️

If you don't care about it and he doesn't enjoy it, it seems an easy answer.

Odd to me, though, the men I've known have all loved it. I needed to be persuaded into it by the first one as I didn't like the idea. He was not in any way coercive about it, but he was extremely keen.

My husband has never given me oral as he really didn’t enjoy it with his ex’s - he didn’t even want to try with me.

I actually really enjoyed receiving, but at the time didn’t feel it was a relationship breaker. I used to give him oral but over the years (we’ve been together almost 20) it’s decreased as he now takes ages to orgasm and I don’t enjoy it!