Hi all, I've been dating my lovely boyfriend (aged 54) for a year. I'm a divorced mum of 1 and he has 4 teenagers. Hes been divorced 5 years but was married to the same lady for 25 years. He left her and at the time she bad mouthed him to their kids saying he had abandoned them. His eldest children have only just started to want a relationship with him after the divorce and he feels a lot of guilt. His ex was upset he found me and calls him up with a drama each time she hears we are meeting (one of the kids is ill when they aren't etc.) Or she rings up crying when he is staying over. I've been very tolerant so far. She told him he needed to stay in his village due to covid so he didn't pass it to his kids. I live a short drive away and he stood up to her to tell her he was still intending on meeting me (we are a support bubble). She built tripped him into thinking he is putting his kids lives at risk meeting me and he decided that we can't now meet up (but can still call/Zoom). I totally get it and would never ask him to choose between the kids and me but he has been my lifeline during the pandemic (we were practically living together). I have no idea when I'll see him again (it could be autumn after we are vaccinated) and feel like I've lost him. Every fibre of my being wants to challenge him on this but I think that would he selfish. I don't know what to think/ do.