I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years i have 2 children (now 8 and 11years old) from my previous relationship and he has 2 from his previous relationship (now 13 and 25)..im going to be 100% honest here as i am alot to blame aswell so im going to tell you how it is..when i got with him we didnt meet eachothers children for around 6 months..my children go to their dads every weekend so the only time my partner gets to see my children is weekdays when he comes over (3 times a week) my partner has his daughter the youngest one every weekend and his oldest comes round every now and then as she is older and moved out etc..i got on with his kids straight away and at the start i would go to his every saturday and spend the day with him and his daughter (who was 8 at the time) then i would go home sunday so that he got a day on his own with his daughter. Every saturday me him and his daughter would go out for the day shopping or to look round london or i would male cakes or art and craft stuff with her and i even took her shopping on my own which was a really nice bonding time with her. During the week he would come to mine and it was always more difficult coz my kids were going to bed when he came over so he would see them for say half hour then they would go to bed..we never got to spend anytime with him and my kids at weekends coz they would go to their dads..it was good for 3 years but the past 2 years the bond has gone between me and his daughter and him and my children. Me and my bf started argueing quite abit and we stopped going out and doing stuff at weekends..then as his daughter got older she wanted to sleep over her friends on a saturday and during the first lockdown didnt see her for 4 months because she was off school so she would go to her dads on a weekday instead of the weekend so i never saw her..she is now 13 and reqlly hard to talk to she doesnt say anything she doesnt even say hello when she first sees me..it has now got to the point where on a saturday not even one word is exchanged between me and his daughter she acts as if i al invisible doesnt even look at me when she walks in and it makes saturdays so awkward and it got my back up so i dont say anything to her either. During the 5 years he has not taken my kids out anywhere not been interested in anything they do, knows nothing about them really..he said that he found it hard to bond with them because he was never spending much time with them..its all got to much for me and i said to him i think we should go our seperate ways because after 5 years we should have bonded with eachothers children by now. His answer is to move in together and we will all bond but i think if it isnt working moving in togther wont help anything and i dont want to move in with him whennhe hasnt bonded with my children and i havent with his it just doesnt seem right..i mean i get what his saying if we move in then we will all have dinner together be in the same house all the time together so surely we would bond more? I dont know if this is the answer..hes a lovely man who is so loyal and my kids do like him and i love him very much..should i stay and move in or leave now?