Sibling emotional abuse

[Miltonkeynesmummy]

Has anyone here (over 50) been emotionally abused by a sister and what have you done to overcome it?

I'm supporting someone who is going through this. There's no way they will ever cut them off but I've hit a brick wall with what help I can offer.

Not over fifty but yes

Total NC is the only way to resolve it sadly IME though I wish it were different.

Emotional abuse is emotional abuse and the only way to overcome it is eradicate the person as they don’t change.

^^ This

You can't expect other adults to change their behaviour - especially if they can't see it as abusive. You can only control how much you are exposed to it and if you're an adult, that means NC.

I thought that would be the case but I know that's not an option for them.

If it’s not an option then they are with enabling abuse or need professional help or both

I cut him off.

There's nothing less I could have done.

Me. I can't cut them off yet but once my mother dies I'm having nothing to do with them.

There is only ever one answer to abuse - take yourself out of punching distance.

I have experienced relentless emotional violence from a sibling, some of it criminal in nature. Blocking and full NC is the only way through it unless you want your MH eroding and your life hijacked.

It is v difficult to do though. It’s tough to pull away from the strong life long toxic bonds that hold dysfunctional and enmeshed families together. Misguided FOG (fear, obligation and guilt) makes you tolerate abuse from family that you would never endure from a friend.

But life on the other side (once the raw pain of detaching has past) is lighter and brighter.

Why is NC not an option? It may not be an easy solution, but frankly, routes to escape are seldom, if ever, easy.