Should I make contact in lockdown?

[Oohhwhattodo]

Hello!

Just wondering if I should act upon this or if I'm basically being daft/a creep!

I'm a newly single mum of 2, co-parenting with my STBXH who lives locally.

I've been chatting to a single dad on the school run, he lives round the corner and has his kids full time. I do like him, he's great to talk to and I think (but I could be wrong) that there's an attraction there.

I don't have his number and with lockdown, potentially won't see him until school starts again in the year 2040 (!). We have mutual friends and he lives round the corner and I was contemplating either a) asking our mutual friend to pass on my number and say he's welcome to get in touch if he needs anything or b) knocking on his door and extending the same offer.

What do you think? I'm afraid to put myself out there, but I also don't have a lot to lose. He gets my number and doesn't act on it then fine. He gets my number and we become friends, great.

Potentially don't clap eyes on him until school resumes, so not too embarrassing?

I might knock on his door “while passing” on a daily walk, ask how he’s coping with home schooling etc, offer help if you can, or just have a whinge about it all. That way, if he’s not interested , you haven’t made a fool of yourself. And if he is interested, it opens a line of communication.

Haven’t you posted about this school dad before

@Givemeabreak88

Haven’t you posted about this school dad before

Don't think so!

What makes you think he wants help with something? 🤔

Sorry but I think as you are newly single then maybe take some time out for yourself first especially since you have DC and they might be adjusting to the new normal.

I think he's just being polite. Don't do anything.

What if he answers the door in a stained t shirt and pants thinking you're the Yodel delivery?

@simone1863

What if he answers the door in a stained t shirt and pants thinking you're the Yodel delivery?

I can't unsee this from my minds eye! Problem solved 😬

Could you add him on Facebook instead?

Could you add him on Facebook instead?

I'd do this over knocking on the door.

If you can add him on FB maybe you could take the angle of seeing if he wants to arrange a Zoom chat/ game for the kids and take the conversation from there rather than an abstract 'if there's anything he needs'.

That would be continuing to get to know him in the same way as at the school gate.

I don't know how newly single you are but with things as they are, I would prepare for a 'maybe some time' type of answer as people are a bit zoomed/ phone called/ texted out.

If you don't have FB then you could ask your friend to pass your number on with the same pretext. I wouldn't knock on at the moment. I wouldn't really appreciate that if I'm honest, not with lockdown (if you're in the UK).

Not during lockdown, with no real reason to give your number out. Why not just wait until the kids are back to school, go and talk to him, invite him round to yours with his kids for a play date? Then get his number, go on from there.

Fb add as a friend
If not roam past his house once a day until he spots you friendly single mum.
I decided to contact someone I liked but wasn't sure if he would be interested via online and quite pleased he responded and is in contact.

given these times we only live once.

@JillofTrades

Sorry but I think as you are newly single then maybe take some time out for yourself first especially since you have DC and they might be adjusting to the new normal.

Exactly.

Don't you want time to get your life in order and focus on your kids & their well-being, rather than scheming ways to get the attention of yet another man?