Recently married. Is this normal?

[MW93]

I recently got married to my partner of 7 years. He's a great guy and the perfect partner in many ways.

However our sex life isn't great. It's not overly regular and when it is I'm never particularly satisfied which is why I don't go running back for more. He was only the second guy I slept with as I met him in my teens and I'm now panicking that I've missed out on the opportunity to explore myself with others and discover what I really want.

Any friendly advice welcome. I hear of people who have a fantastic sex life and I'm realising I've never really had that.

Address it now. Or you will divorce.
Ypu need open communication and probably a sex therapist.

I didn't with my DH and broke up a family with three children as i left it far, far too late. Now i realise if, at the beginning, i had addressed the awkward sex like a grown up and tried to fix it we could have been much much happier

Do you have children together? If not, do not get pregnant until you take lots of time to think about what you want and need. I would be having several very frank conversations with your husband to see if he's even concerned about your needs. If he's not, that's all you need to know really.

@MW93 you need to have a chat about it with your dh. By not being satisfied, I'm assuming that you're not enjoying things and not orgasming? My dh will generally always makes sure that I achieve satisfaction when we have sex, be it before or after. Occasionally we'll have a quickie where it doesn't happen but I don't really mind as it's still nice to have the intimacy and isn't all the time.

Hopefully your dh will put the effort in once you've spoken. I know I'd be mortified to think my dh wasn't really enjoying things as he should and would do everything I could to turn it around, so hopefully he'll act on it. If he doesn't... well you have some serious thinking to do. Many marriages have certainly ended due to shit sex... it's important.

You have only recently married but been with him for seven years - did you not realise this during those seven years? I don't understand why you've waited until married before being irked by it.