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No contact rule feeling down

4 replies

Whatwouoduoudo · 05/01/2021 02:21

I had been with my partner 6 amd a half years
We had gd times we had bad times just like any relationship.
But recently i noticed a lil change in him he stayed at hes place more and spent less time communicatong with me. He had recently started a new job which was making him tired i understood this and i didnt make a big deal out of it.
I begin to notice he was becoming arquemenative with everyone on when asking him he just replied I'm tired blah blah.
Mine and hes conversation became less and less like he couldnt be bothered i asked why he just replied im tired bit he always seem to have time to.talk to other ppl.
I couldntnget my head round it told him i feel theres distance between us amd i dont understand why hes reply was he just enjoyed spending time at hes home i understood this relationships go through hitches at points and sometimes space is needed.
And i feel sometimes absent makes the heart grow fonder but still our convos got shorter but he was always typing to hes friends. I begum to get a bit worried an expressed my concerns yet again he replied im not its a few texts to my mates and brother.
Wether this true or not im unsure but my gut was telling me diffetent so i decided om the 3rd
Id ask him to think about our relationships and where are we going we are better than a gd morning and a night i love you.
I didnt want to have meaning less convos with him that felt false
So i basically asked him to let me know where we are going with our relationship
And to let me know
Hes reply was ok
Ive not heard from him since that reply
Im damned if i will contact him even though its tempting.
Im now on my 2nd day of no contact as he was probably expecting me to text him and arque or beg him.
I dont have him om any of my social medoa but i do have hes family so i no they tell him whats going on on there
But either way hes got me hanging on a string as hes not answered im.gonna take it as a its over .
I love this man and he claims to love me
Im hoping this no contact helps me freshen my mind and helps me become myself again
Its just so hard and sometimes ot would be nice to have someone to talk to through these hard times

OP posts:
LouiseTrees · 05/01/2021 07:03

I think it needs to go at least a week/maybe 2 before you decide it’s over

Whatwouoduoudo · 05/01/2021 13:30

I'd like to think its not over
But isn't ot better to think the worst and try and heal instead of holding on for that extra time waiting for him to fight to keep us.

OP posts:
nolovelost · 05/01/2021 13:34

It doesn't sound like he wants to be with you, I'm sorry. You need to move on. Flowers

LouiseTrees · 05/01/2021 22:32

@Whatwouoduoudo

I'd like to think its not over But isn't ot better to think the worst and try and heal instead of holding on for that extra time waiting for him to fight to keep us.
You are not holding on extra time. You can go about normal life. Don’t think about him, don’t contact him but equally don’t go chatting someone else up or the like.
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