We’ve been together to for 20 years and am now nearly 40.
I feel increasingly like I’m bored of him, I know how awful that sounds but we don’t have interesting conversations, he rarely makes me laugh, there’s little fun. I’m an extrovert he’s an introvert but we did used to have fun together.
I feel like we are two housemates who just moan at each other. He’s quite a misery I think he brings me down. Subsequently I’m on social media a lot because I’m lonely/bored, he says this is our problem but I think it’s a symptom of the problem.
We have small children, it’s not bad enough to really justify breaking up, I wouldn’t be able to do my job, etc. But I feel sad when I see other couples having a lovely time, smiling together, holding hands and feeling connected.
I don’t know if this is a symptom of a difficult year or we’ve grown apart. I feel like I have to plod on feeling disconnected until the kids are a bit older and more independent.