Parenting with your narcissist ex..

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I'm currently going through court proceedings with ex partner. For context he was very very violent towards me and DD.. To the point Child protection became involved and removed us both from the area we lived in and relocated us to safety.. he waited several months to put an application into court and now I am the Respondent mother. I've sought a lot of professional advice and I have a solicitor. A lot of these professionals have told me due to the severity of the abuse and that there is documented abuse of DD also and that he does not know where we live and in doing so would mean we would have to move again.. Its highly unlikely he will get direct contact. Cafcass have him completely right.. And have been trying to protect us also. What's worse is he is now denying any abuse and calling me the perpetrator.
My question is, I do have to prepare myself for the likelihood he might get contact and I don't know how i will even breathe. My DDs entire childhood will be communicated via Solicitors or third parties..He's unable to contact me due to an injunction which will be renewed once expired.. This isn't someone I will EVER be able to coparent with
.this isn't someone I can do handover with just us.. how do I actually deal with it if it happens. Sending DD for contact when I am terrified for her safety and what he will also do to me if he finds out where we live.
I'm also really scared that he will probe DD when she becomes more verbal to find out where we live.
How do others cope with sending children to contact with previously violent and abusive other parents?

What's the possibility of that happening, OP? Has your sol not given you any clear indication and is just arse-covering? She needs to fight harder for you both. If it's as serious as you describe and Cafcass are on your side, the court would have to go against their recommendations, render your place of safety worse than useless, and put you both in danger.

Has your sol advised on how soon you could appeal, if the judge is a complete bastard?

Other posters may have direct experience of Cafcass affecting court decisions so wait and see what they say.

@Alys20 from others experiences i know the courts try to promote contact at all costs. Cafcass were of the mindset there wasn't to be any interim contact as it puts both of us at risk.. But the judge went against that.. So not hopeful for the future.. I had to take steps to stop the interim contact and we're back to court in the new year. The evidence is hugely compelling.. I just don't know how contact can safely be managed in the future with all these risks.. If there's a safe way then I'll adhere to that but I can't see that there is given his history and what he's capable of.