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How do you tell someone you are no longer interested?

3 replies

burbluberry · 03/01/2021 11:13

I'm starting this post off with the disclaimer that both he and I lived in flats alone, and we weren't seeing anyone else indoors so we'd bubbled together under the rules.

Matched with him on an online dating platform, and thought 'not my usual type looks wise, but seems lovely'. We facetimed a few times. Then I went to his area of the city for three dates. By the end of the third I was starting to think he was selfish, a bit weird, and not for me. He was due to come to me for a date but then cancelled as he was 'too busy', despite that evening going to have been my only one off from work all week. Obviously lives in his own world. I'd said to a friend that if he doesn't make the effort to come to me then it's a no.

Now I have got the 'ick' and don't want to see him again. How do you best approach this? I still have one of his scarfs. Do I send it back with a little note saying thanks? So that it's clear I don't want to see him again?

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EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 03/01/2021 11:29

I'd just message him and say "Thanks, it's been fun, but I think we're looking for different things. All the best. Would you like me to post your scarf back?"

Then don't respond to ANYTHING apart from sending the scarf back.

Glitterb · 03/01/2021 11:33

Just be honest, you are very early in the relationship and there is no point continuing it if you feel this way.

yellowhighheels · 03/01/2021 11:35

Just a message as above is fine after a few dates.

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