Need a hand hold as feeling traumatised

[nothingleftforme]

Hi, Recently suddenly my partner left and I am in such shock I feel so traumatised, can someone please talk to me or be a little kind to me? Thanks

Hi @nothingleftforme, hope you're doing OK. I've been in a similar position, my partner of 9 years upped and left me and had moved out within a few days, I'm not sure on the circumstances surrounding your situation but there was another woman in my case. The first few months were horrendous, I was in total denial and posted on here alot for advice. Do you have any friends/family for support near by?

Was it completely out of the blue? How long had you been together?

It's always tough, especially so if you had no idea of what was coming. What happened?

Thanks both for the replies. He just said he didn’t want to be here anymore, he didn’t seem happy last year so I suppose I should have known, he said it was okay when I asked him more than one occasion so I carried on as usual. I am not sure how to pick up the pieces and what to do from here. I have no friends here as I had moved for him and previously I did not have much family anyway, we were together 10+ years. I suspect it could be a OW from work but I am really not sure although the way he spoke made me a little uneasy, I didn’t give it much thought. I can’t check any of his emails or accounts as I don’t have passwords, I keep reading that’s how people usually find out. I am just so devastated and don’t know where to start, I really want to be strong but I don’t know how to. Why did I put myself in this position

@nothingleftforme have you asked him of there is another woman? I found out myself and he still denied it right up until I contacted the other woman. Your situation sounds very similar to mine in that you moved away and have few friends or family. I won't lie to you, it's been very tough for me and even now 6 months later I have a post up myself about my struggles and trying to cut him out for good. Did you own your home together? Any children together? Keep posting on here. I received lots of helpful advice on here in the beginning and I would not have gotten through without it. Feel free to send me a private message if you need someone to speak with privately as I know exactly how you are feeling. You did not put yourself in any position, you are not to blame for any of this. If he was unhappy he should have communicated this with you. How recently did this happen?

Bumping this for you OP. Hopefully you get some more advice

Sorry to hear this, seems to be a theme of new year, get rid of the old life.

Make it your year without him

Hope you're doing OK today OP