Can't help but reflect on past

[Vicky1y]

I'm married to an amazing man who I love very much and we have a child together.

Recently I can't help but think about my last ex's who have always used me. I feel like such a doormat. One of them borrowed money off me and didn't pay me back, another I was with for 5 years and he turned controlling so I had to end the relationship.

I feel angry at myself for allowing them to treat me the way they did. I wish I could get back in contact with the damn ex that borrowed the money and didn't pay me back. It still bugs me till this day. I borrowed him £3000 apparently to help towards his car (what I fool I was). He took the money and scarpered, never heard from him again. I just wanted to rant, I've never told anyone this before because it makes me feel stupid.

If you want my advice, put it in the past.
We all make mistakes and who gives a shit?
You're in a really good place now.
Appreciate what you have, be proud you learnt the lessons you needed from your arsehole ex's.

It took me £25k to get rid of my arsehole ex through the divorce courts if that makes you feel any better!

@SometimesIWonderWhy you're right, I'm in a brilliant place now and I shouldn't let it get to me. £25k Blimey!

Hi.
Yer. I've thought about it a few times this year with all the free time and I've been a doormat too and fallen for the sob story but made me who I am so not wasting my time getting upset or angry over it!!

You're not the only one. I lend ex £3500 cos I'm a prat. Got £50 x 2 back over a few year of chasing before I gave up hope. Even after 17 years I get a flash of sheer fury at myself for being such a mug. I try to treat it as a bad 'business' decision, I gambled and lost.

It's was a harsh lesson, but it really taught me to judge a man by their financial stability not just the fact they give me fanny gallops.

The lessons you learnt from bad exs led you to making better choices. You ended up with an amazing husband. Not everyone learns that lesson so be proud of yourself. Worth £3k? Probably!