Ex's weird Snapchat

[WingingItAtLife]

Some of you may have seen my previous post about me needed some opinions on if my ex was abusive. With help from some of you I've realised he was emotionally abusive and coercive.

Anyway, he has recently decided he doesn't want to see the kids (again) and he's struggling and still loves me etc.

Tonight he sent me a Snapchat of him crying saying 'remember this... We can't go back'.

This is just another way for him to try to get at me isn't it? He's trying to play on my better nature isn't he? Wants me to feel sorry for him?

Thank you for all the replies.

I often dont reply to his ridiculous messages.... Then he sends me a few more along the lines of 'youre proving my point here that you're with another man' 🙄 because I haven't replied in his acceptable timescale, he turns it on me. I have not cheated - emotionally or physically. Except one drunken snog on a girls holiday 2 years into our 14 year relationship before we had kids or a mortgage. And even then, the arguing and sex pestering had already begun if I'm honest with myself.

We do majority of our conversation on WhatsApp and I periodically email the conversation to myself so he cannot delete anything that may be useful.

@Newwayofthinking

People who commit suicide rarely tell anyone. Only narcissistic dickheads do

When I spoke to Women’s Aid about this they told me that’s now not considered to be true.

OP, I also had the accusations of cheating. My ex even accused me of being pregnant by two (yes, two!) of my male friends. He’d absolutely convinced himself of it. Only the lack of a forthcoming baby has silenced him! You have my sympathies, it’s incredibly draining. Well done for saving the conversations.

Second blocking him on everything bar one method of contact. Keep him on WhatsApp and block him on everything else. Don't reply to anything that is not about childcare arrangements.

He sounds creepy as fuck op.

Defo call the ambulance/police if he threatens suicide. Dont reply to him or anything, just call them. They'll soon realise he is bullshitying and he'll realise you dont take any shit. He won't want to get in official trouble do he'll stop with those threats.

Block him on Snapchat and you do know he is trying to manipulate you again. He sounds so juvenile. Just crack on with your life and have minimum contact with him. I used to get so angry when my ex used to text 20 mins before he was supposed to be collecting kids got weekend and cancel. I knew basically he changed plans to suit new gf. My kids are grown up now but have never forgotten how often he blew them off at the last minute. Your ex will realise what he has thrown away one day.

Someone pointed out that calling the police for a welfare check if he ramps up his suicide threats means there's a record of his unstable behaviour and actually that's a very good point!

Having a record of his lunacy could be useful. If he gets nasty, which he will, he could start playing the 'I want custody' card. Which would not be fun.

If you do call them, be prepared that they will most probably inform the local children’s services. Which is a good thing because they will offer you support and in my case they said he was to have no unsupervised access because of his unpredictable behaviour. I wouldn’t have felt at all comfortable having our little one on his own after all the threats he made so it was a huge relief for someone official to say it.

My local children’s officer was lovely and could see right through him. She saw I was putting our child first and signed us off after two visits but said I can call anytime and gave me a direct phone number.

UPDATE

It was definitely him being manipulative.... Turns out he's already sleeping with someone else.

Good. Hopefully he’s moving on and is in the process of forgetting about you....because he sounds seriously unhinged and like his behaviour could escalate based on your other thread!

Yes, in a way I'm glad. Because he's focusing his attention on someone else and can no longer 'blame' me for walking away/trying to move on. He has now, ultimately, 'sealed the deal' so to speak so surely must mean he realises we're over.
I am, However, a bit concerned for the woman... She also appears to be a single mum and I wouldn't wish his behaviour on anyone x

I would be concerned to let your kids spend unsupervised time with him if he's unstable.