Last year, I dated a man for around 11 months - I'll call him Peter. We get each other, have a great laugh and I adored him. We're both 50, been married before and we both have teens at home although his ex-w did have theirs at hers sometimes.
I was frustrated I didn't get to see him more than once every 10 days and his communication was very sparodic. He made me feel anxious and disconnected when he didn't contact me for 4/5 days at a time. We had a bit of a fall out in July 20 and then we just didn't ring each other so lost touch.
I've thought about him every day since. I've missed him so much but in Nov I started dating again. I've had 5 socially distanced walking dates with a lovely man who I like. He's polite, interesting, a great communicator, not love-bomby and he's respectful. I'll call him David.
Out of he blue, Peter got in touch, sent me flowers to say he was thinking of me and then rang me. He said he had been depressed and withdrawn last year but he adored me and wanted to see me again. However, further conversations have brought home to me that our major communication differences are still there. He still can't see me a lot and won't commit to contacting me more frequently ( I'm talking one text a day here at most!).
So I told Peter it's never going to work and I'm devastated because it's him I want. I can't stop crying.
Have I made the right decision or should I work on accepting that's just how Peter is? David is lovely but that connection I feel so deeply with Peter is missing.