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Differences in a relationship

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NowWhatUsernameShallIHave · 01/01/2021 02:43

I’ve been single for a couple of years and now it’s ready to start dating (rules permitting 🙄)

I want to ask those in LTR how do you deal with differences such as class, education, pay differences, hobbies where maybe one person is very active, one person has children and the other doesn’t - especially when those differences were apparent from the beginning of the relationship.

I don’t think know if it’s worth dating when
I know there’s always to be differences.

My exH append I met young and we obviously grew together. How can it work later on in life?

OP posts:
jimmyjammy001 · 01/01/2021 03:03

You need to have set standards and be clear from the offset what you want and don't want from a future partner otherwise things maybe going well during the honeymoon period but after that the things that are important to you which you have overlooked to begin with will annoy you and the relationship will end up going no where, presuming you are looking for long term.
For me the most important one is no children (I know that is not popular on here) as I've been in that situation a couple of times where they've allready have children and their child free nights are few and far between, where as every night was a child free night for me and so there was just to many restrictions / complications on when and where we could meet up and the things that we could do, I didn't want to be a part time partner or a step parent so I purposely looked for someone who is at the same stage of life as myself and we are on equal footing from the start and it has a higher chance of working out long term, it has worked for me so far.
Alot of people on here get into relationships with people and just don't look at the long term complications from the start and then complain about problems a couple years down the line on here when they have let it build up and then becomes a big problem which were inevitable from the start, a common one is dating someone who is allready married/separated, having children with them, then moaning that they won't get a divorce from their first/second/third wife.

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