How do I see this through

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I’m ending my marriage and my husband is crushed that I’m - as he sees it - taking our daughter away from him. He doesn’t mean stopping him from seeing her, but that he’s not going to see her every day, live with her every day. I totally get it, the thought of not seeing her every day breaks my heart as well and I can’t fathom how that’s going to feel when it actually happens. She’s the reason I’ve stayed for so long and a big massive part of me feels like we’ve failed her. Her dad and I get on fine as friends but we’ve no relationship to speak of apart from that and it’s just gone too far now, I can’t live like this any longer with the life sucked out of me and I know in my heart of hearts it’s over. Its unbearably sad. It’s not anything he’s done and I hate to hurt him, he’s a good man and a great dad, but I just don’t see any way to avoid hurt and I don’t want to end up continuing to be unhappy out of guilt. I feel like I waver every time I hear my wee girl’s voice and I hate that this is happening

I guess you knew all of this would happen when you asked for a divorce.... the pain, guilt etc.. you probably saw it coming but doesnt make it any easier I know

Your girl will be quite fine. Honestly they adapt so well and she will still see her dad...and have a happy, content mum too. Far more damaging for her to be brought up in an empty sham marriage. Kids are smart. Shed pick up on the lack of love, lack of affection between you two.

You know you're doing the right thing for the right reasons.

There will be lots of women offering their personal experience of this I expect....hold tight for the replies and hopefully they will boost you and give you the strength you need xxx

Thank you packitin, I hope so. It’s easy to start thinking well if we done this and tried this.. but it would be delaying the inevitable and in the meantime we would all suffer. Some personal experiences would be a great help so hopefully some come along soon

Well done you for having the guts to do it 💐

I think you are being very brave. I've been thinking about this myself how old idyour DD?

Can I ask if he has agreed to move out, or are you living together while divorcing ?