Help to calm me please

[user22222]

Hello

Oh what a day, my physically/mentally abusive and drug addict dad who I have been NC with for around a year is currently at my front door and has been banging for around 30 mins, I'm sitting in bed shaking with my heart about the beat out my chest not sure what to do, I don't think I can even answer to tell him to F off.

Think he seen me spying from the window too then came back.

To top it off me and H split today after a long build up of resentment and a mix of other things, I still love him so much. It was sad.

So lying in bed ignoring the door, watching Netflix with a cup of tea. And I'll probably be sleeping for 12.

Here's to 2021 🥳

Sounds horrendous sweetheart, are you alone ?

Your dad. If he is still there, call the police or ignore unless he does something ridiculous.

Are you OK? You shouldn't be alone, can someone help you?

Call the police and get him removed.

Yes, please call the police. This is harassment and threatening behaviour. I'm sorry about your break up - it sounds like that's only just happened. Has he gone? Is it fixable with counselling?

Thank you both!

Yes I'm alone, I have an older DS from a previous relationship who's at his dads, and H has taken DD to his grandparents to stay for 3 nights, as apparently I'll need to get used to it now we're separating 🙄 can't see it though so fingers crossed she'll be home tomorrow.

'Dad' has gone, hoping he won't be back! Think I'll have to have the police removed if so can't have it happening when the kids are here.

Thanks again