Husband’s response to my negative emotions

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Really struggling with how DH responds when I express a negative emotion.

Had a really stressful morning with the kids (3 year old who is being assessed for autism and a 2 yr old who is very demanding). After the 2 yr old was finally down for a nap, I said “god, what an awful morning”. DH response was “well, let’s have a good afternoon”. All I wanted was a response like, “yeah I know” or I don’t know, something that just acknowledged the feeling.

This sort of response from him is fairly standard. Maybe it sounds minor but life is so hard at the moment and when I’m feeling down or stressed, saying something to DH is likely to make me feel worse because he’ll always come back with some sort of positive or problem solving solution.

I don’t know how to explain to him or if I’m being unreasonable to expect him to change. When he is down or stressed I think I do well at just letting him feel sad or stressed etc but being there for him.

Does anyone know what I’m talking about or any advice?

You're probably better off finding someone else to vent to. I don't mean to be sexist, but this is generally the way that women deal with negative emotions and men generally try to solve (which seems to lead to a lot of irritated partners).
To provide another perspective, I lean towards your partner's way of dealing with this stuff and "venters" irritate me. It's as if they are dealing with their negative emotion by trying to inflict some of it on you and make your day just a little bit worse.