Hello this is a long story but will keep it brief. My wife has been under a lot of stress lately with work etc and has been having counselling. The issues she has been having at work is not resolved.
She has good days and bad days. She can be moody and I walk around on egg shells around her and don't keep quiet about her moodiness.
The other day she was at one of our properties we rent out doing some decorating all day.
I had cooked her some pastries for tea and when she came home she said quite harshly that she had told me the other day that she doesn't want to eat any more fatty foods. She did say that to me.
She looked in the cupboards and fridge looking for food and she just complained we have nothing in as I didn't do the Christmas food shop properly.
She went upstairs for a bath clearly in a grump. I went upstairs to the toilet and I asked her how the decorating had comealong and she said it was quite a frustrating day.
She then said quite sharply to get something out of the freezer for her to eat.
I wasn't pleased with the way she spoke to me as I found her tone very disrespectful.
Last night I thought I'd bring the issue up with her. I tried to be as nice as I could. I just said please can you do me a favour to speak to me with some respect. I told her how she spoke to me and she completely went on the defensive with me. She was raising her voice saying no food in the house she was starving and we work as a team to Have food cooked. She didn't want what I had cooked. She said I had sorted myself out that day with food.( i had our 6 year old out to the park that day and we got fish and chips on the way).
My wife just was on a rant and hardly spoke to me for the rest of the evening saying she was annoyed. I told her I didn't want to have an argument about this, I was merely asking her to speak to me with some respect.
This morning she was huffy and now I feel like I can't being issues up with her as she said I was telling her off. I didn't think I was as I spoke to her nicely about it.
We've been together for 24 years and she's always been supportive and I could always speak to her about things. This year has been quite challenging for us.
Any advice on the situation as I feel like I was wronged.
Thank you