How do you find a good relationship counseller?

[LovesToCook]

I've been married for 10 years. He was originally kind, considerate and thoughtful. However over the years he's retreated from the relationship and it's now like living with a room mate who you rarely speak to. I've spoken to him about it a number of times over the years. Each times he says he'll try harder but very quickly slips back even further than before.
I'd suggested we try couples counselling in the summer after the last flare up but he'd wanted to wait will we can have F2F sessions. But we just need to see someone now. Im not sure if the relationship is repairable or if I'm too scared to consider the alternatives. I just know we need help. What's the best way to find a counsellor you can work with please?

Have you look on the Relate website? I know friends who have had couples counselling with Relate before and found it really helpful. I think they do online too

I’d suggest you don’t
Get a good therapist of your own and see what you want.
Has he pushed for couples counselling? Is he trying to improve things?
Are you filling in the gaps?

I know Relate also do counselling for individuals so if he won’t take part you can still go to get support for you

Thanks, I'll speak to them when their offices open in NY. Good to hear others have found them useful x

He's happy to try couples counselling. He just doesn't know what to do so doesn't do anything. He's always been a day dreamer and can't follow through on working on a relationship. He doesn't comrehend it takes constant nurturing and communication. I liken being with him to pushing a rock up a hill.