Does anyone else get excited far too early?

[bellsdumb]

I am so bad for getting excited about a date far too early.
I matched with a guy on an online dating platform, after like 3-4 days of chatting online, we grabbed a coffee in the park. We ended up chatting for two hours whilst walking around. Whilst it was hard to flirt properly whilst maintaining social distancing, we definitely had a lot in common and feel there is real potential there. I don't really agree to dates unless I think there is a good chance of a match.

After the date, he text me "You really are one of the nicest girls I've met in a long time" . Although do I want to be nice?

Before I'd even met him, I'd fall asleep thinking about the conversations we'd had et cetera.

Just me?

No not just you, but it is important to pace yourself! That’s why it’s a good idea to have a few dates with a couple of/several men on the go at any one time, to take the pressure off. Enjoy

That’s totally me and then I get ghosted and it hurts like hell! I really struggle with OLD and not putting all my eggs in one basket etc.

I think most people do if you feel a spark. I would say follow the dating thread on mumsnet as you'll see how sometimes things don't pan out. It's great to be positive though.

Yep I do the same and never seem to learn! Its hard because there's so many dreadful men online so when you click with a rare one its difficult to not get hopeful. I clicked with a guy online yesterday and we were texting all day, great online chemistry today....nothing and he's been active on POF all day.
Its very common and I'm used to it but it does suck.

and..... yes .... I got excited far too early. He told me he didn't want to see me again after our last date and I'm gutted

Oh no @bellsdumb sorry to hear about that. Did he say why?

Sorry to hear that, I guess a walk in the park isn't the most romantic first date setting In dreary Winter, I know there isn't any other choice but it's so casual and I'm sure it doesn't help, I could be wrong but that's my thoughts.

He sounds like a fucking prick.

Why does he sound like a prick @livefornaps ?
The guy was polite and didn’t ghost but explained his reasons.
Is every a guy who doesn’t fall in love with you is a prick? What a strange (and awful) approach to life and dating

Also I’m sorry OP, I’ve been there. I second someone’s suggestion of having more than one guy on the go, until you become exclusive. Don’t lose hope :)

Sorry OP. A similar thing happened to me. I got exited too early and so did he if I’m honest and then I made myself too available and he sort of called the shots. Within one month of meeting him we had 7 dates and then he stopped responding to my texts a day after our last date at his.
He strung me along for days and then just a couple of days ago, I sent him a text telling him I’d be moving on as I didn’t feel respected etc.
The plus side is that this guy told you he didn’t want to see you so at least there’s closure. You were not ghosted or ignored.

Maybe next time, have a few people on the go. Then also don’t let them see the excitement you feel. You can come on here and voice your excitement but don’t show it too early in. Men like to chase so let him do that.
It hurts so bad, I know but don’t give up.
Delete him if you had his number and maybe give yourself a few days to recover then get back on the dating platform if you want.

In my own case, I sent him that text saying I’d decided to move on etc, and there was no response from him- which is a response if I’m tbh.
Never mind...onwards and upwards x

No. I am old and cynical.

I'm not dating atm, pandemic dating isn't for me. But before when I did date no I had the opposite problem. I haven't met a man who excites me for years. There's been a few that should but after a few days of messaging I can't even muster the excitement to text them, let a lone arrange a date lol.

Oh no I read this feeling excited for you! Then I saw your update, did he say why? I guess no spark on his side?

He said that now was not the right time for him, but he'd love to get to know me better in future

That’s sad but his loss

@livefornaps

He sounds like a fucking prick.

You know if men say that about women who reject them they are labelled dangerous don't you?

@Wheresmykimchi yes hunni, that's men. Who kill women.

I don't think he done anything wrong, i certainly dont thunk hes a prick. he's changed his mind, that's all. Sometimes we just have to put ourselves first. It sounds like that's what his dome.

[quote livefornaps]@Wheresmykimchi yes hunni, that's men. Who kill women.[/quote]
Ah right.
So as the innocent martyrs of life,women can call men fucking pricks for no reason at all and that's OK.
Gotcha.

Sorry to hear this latest update. But yes it's ok to be excited, one day it will be the one! I'm living proof, I was about to give up on online dating - and he appeared in my feed and I'm sat next to him on our sofa in our new house!

Oh no then run from that offer, honestly I’m thinking he has met someone else and wants to keep you there just in case as a back up!

Sorry it didn’t work out this time. Plenty more fish etc. One tip if you are obsessing too much over a man is to rub it away I find

@BubblyBarbara

Sorry it didn’t work out this time. Plenty more fish etc. One tip if you are obsessing too much over a man is to rub it away I find

Love this! (And definitely agree)