Trying to work out whether my marriage is normal and I should suck it up and get on with it, or whether life can be better! Please tell me about your happy relationship and what makes it work for you? Bonus points if you've been in a bad place and found something that helped you get through it!
For context - together since we were 19, married 6 years with 2yo DS. DH is not English, so we have lots of tension about cultural stuff he claims not to understand (today's example - 2 Oreos is not a suitable lunch for a toddler 🙄) he has a history of mental health issues which meant I 'led' for many years (income, organising house, making decisions etc) though these are now mainly under control.
He is a lovely father - great fun, and our boy adores him. But I don't! I don't find him attractive, and we are rarely intimate. He can be good company, but he grates me most of the time. I am much more career-driven, and make significantly more than him - this causes him to feel worthless. In reality, I don't care what he makes but can't stand the moping and lack of confidence! He is also very passive (no hobbies, friends, drive to 'do' anything, from plan a holiday to DIY). We bicker constantly, and have big arguments most months.
TLDR: is there any fix to not particularly liking your husband, even if he's a very good guy?!