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Would you date you?

142 replies

DaysAreGettingLongerNow · 30/12/2020 16:20

Not a TAAT but this was asked in another thread.

It’s got me thinking.

I wouldn’t date me. I’m far too antisocial, busy doing my own thing, staring at screens, running around after my kids, being stressed.

I’m not sure whether I’m interested in getting into another relationship anyway, but right now I don’t think I’m an appealing prospect anyway.

You?

OP posts:
peachgreen · 30/12/2020 21:19

This is an interesting question for me as my absolutely perfect husband died suddenly a few months ago leaving me a widow at 36. So I face the prospect of either being alone forever or eventually trying to date. Both horrendous. But yes, I absolutely would date me. I'm kind, caring, compassionate, funny, fun to be around, a good conversationalist and good in bed. I can be anxious but I recognise it's my problem to deal with. I am a loving and loyal partner who dedicates herself to bringing my person joy. I do however have high standards as late DH was utterly wonderful in pretty much every way so I worry about my chances of finding someone else.

Lookingoutside · 30/12/2020 21:26

Try and stop me Smile

CorianderBee · 30/12/2020 21:34

@Gwenhwyfar

No and it's the reason I can't do online dating. I know I don't have much to offer Sad.
Not true, others often see the beauty in us that we are blind to because we've lived with ourselves so long we believe ourselves boring.
Keratinsmooth · 30/12/2020 21:36

I would, I’m great with my clitoris, can cook all my favourite food, fun and earn a shed load.

Hazelnutlatteplease · 30/12/2020 21:39

I would casually. I'm not sure living together would work. Confused we'd need our own space

whatshalliget · 30/12/2020 21:39

@WarmestRoomInTheHouse

I probably would.

No one else wants to so I might as well...

Grin

Currently I would not date myself no. Much as I am lonely, I have three teens (single parent), am massively insecure, and spend most of my time thinking about all the stuff I am too tired or don’t have time to do.

EssentialHummus · 30/12/2020 21:41

keratin, I’ll be honest, I’d date you too Grin.

Unspeakably · 30/12/2020 21:41

Yes, definitely, but I probably shouldn't! We'd fight all the time Blush.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 30/12/2020 21:43

Nope. I can be a right nasty bitch. I have a very nasty tongue on me. I can also be really grumpy, and have a short temper.

However, dp is a right pain in the arse. Lives winding everyone up, does really annoying things, yet I'm still with him. Suppose it just depends what you can put up with.

DrizzleandDamp · 30/12/2020 21:43

Hmmmm yes because I have an amazing house and finances from hard work, I’m hot and great in bed, I’m kind and would look after me and my feelings, considerate and good at solutions and compromise and I’m not sulky or moody. I’d be totally up for adventures and travel, but also chilling at home and being calm. I’m funny, confident and great for a good debate. Very loving, honest and fair.

Also No because 3 kids is too much to take on, I haven’t a massive amount of time to dedicate outside of them and work, oh and I was gifted herpes by my rapist, which while it’s the same thing as cold sores which 80%+ of the population carry (and 60% of new genital herpes is caused by) apparently I have to tell everyone and this makes me a social pariah due to stigma therefore makes me and everything I have to offer worthless.

Woahisme · 30/12/2020 21:43

I'd date me..... I'd date me hard.... 🦋

WhoLettheCatOut · 30/12/2020 21:44

No

Beamur · 30/12/2020 21:47

For sure. I'm great company and have nice hair and my own teeth.

Eckhart · 30/12/2020 22:10

For those saying no, do you fall out with yourselves all the time?

Thankssomuch · 30/12/2020 22:13

No Eckhart I quite like my own company. I just wouldn’t want to go out with someone like me.

waitrosetrollydolly · 30/12/2020 22:13

Hell yeah !!

Brinn · 30/12/2020 22:14

Hell no.

Minikievs · 30/12/2020 22:16

I would. I'm a fairly good catch I reckon. Shame no one else seems to think so Hmm
However I do think I'm also quite hard work at times. Quite moody. Insecure. But if a stress head.
I'm also kind, thoughtful, loyal and funny.
All I need is a bit of reassurance and I'd be the best bloody other half ever!!

Minikievs · 30/12/2020 22:16

*Bit of

Brownwhiteyellow · 30/12/2020 22:19

No.. I'm lazy, have a bad complexion, overthink, am grumpy, emotionally detatched and I'm very introverted. And have 2 kids and DH who seems to like me.

Blibbyblobby · 30/12/2020 22:21

I asked DH if he'd date himself - he says "Of course not - I'm married!" Grin

GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 30/12/2020 22:23

No, I'm hard work.

catinb00tz · 30/12/2020 22:26

No I'm I mess

Hoping this will change in 2021

ginandwineandbaileys · 30/12/2020 22:26

Yes absolutely
I'm not needy, but that can come across as not attentive, but it's caused by being busy
Have a wicked dirty sense of humour,
And I'm good in bed

whatshalliget · 30/12/2020 22:29

@Blibbyblobby

I asked DH if he'd date himself - he says "Of course not - I'm married!" Grin
Sweet Smile