Gut feeling something is wrong

[Wishiwaswonderwoman87]

Have you ever had a gut feeling that something is not right and been wrong?

Married 5 years, together 8.

Something is just off, like he is hiding something. My heart says maybe he wants to leave but he assures me he doesn't.

The trouble is early in our relationship he essentially ghosted me when I fell pregnant, his mental health was poor and he spiralled. He eventually sought help and we sorted through things but I guess I'm worried this could happen again and something just feels off...

I really really hope that everything is fine OP. In my experience, when I've had that feeling, something was wrong. But that doesn't mean it will be the case for you. How open is your communication? Has talking to him helped at all? You need reassurance to feel better, hopefully he can give you that. Hoping all ends up well 💐

I would say always trust your gut. That doesn't mean you need to make wild demands or lose your head....but listen to your gut. Think about what's set it off and why.

I've had this feeling twice in long term relationships. I was right each time. One was cheating prolifically and the other was working up the nerve to end the relationship. I'd always trust it. Just be watchful.

This is my fear, my gut hasn't been wrong in the past.
I have felt this way a few times with him but couldn't work out whether it was me, I haven't felt this way for a while now.

Communication isn't great, I share everything probably over share in fairness but he doesn't. He coops things up and it like a game of charades where if I get it right he will agree but doesn't really instigate his feelings.

It leads me to these periods of awful feeling sick to my stomach wondering if something is going on.

It could be work related as it has been in the past but I guess my low self confidence means my first thought is always that it's me.

3 times my gut has literally screamed at me "he's cheating." One of the times, there was no reason at all to believe this. My gut was right!

I'd always say trust your gut BUT temper it with sense too, try and find evidence before you act. I'd also say, if you're prone to anxiety and any of the off-shoots of that, your 'gut' will be out of kilter....

Always listen to your gut