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Whaata · 30/12/2020 07:20

I’ve been broken-hearted and fed up ever since. I’m at the point now where I am unable to envisage a connection with anyone again. Not because I want my ex back, I don’t at all. I just can’t see it, imagine it, hope for it like I used to. I desperately wanted to settle down with someone and still do. But suddenly romantic movies fail to strike a chord like they used to, I don’t feel anything towards compliments from anyone, I don’t feel warmth even when I know it’s there. It’s like I am numb to everything. I can’t imagine feeling close to anyone and everyone feels like an utter stranger, not just in the normal way when you’re dating but in a really cold way...I can’t picture for a moment the idea that I could be close to someone again. I genuinely feel like that’s it for me and it scares me. I used to be so passionate about relationships and feel strong and look forward to meeting someone. I just feel cold and numb and like that reality isn’t a reality for me.

I don’t understand this, has anyone experienced it?

OP posts:
flowersrain · 31/12/2020 02:52

How long is it since your relationship ended? Is it possible that you could be depressed?

TenShortStories · 31/12/2020 03:30

Maybe you're just sick of relationships (or the pursuit of them) being the thing that life revolves around?

Mintjulia · 31/12/2020 03:57

I think @tenshortstories might be right.

Perhaps stop looking for a relationship and focus on your own internal happiness instead. Give yourself a rest from other people's needs and emotions for a year.

HereIAmOnceAgain · 31/12/2020 04:07

Is it just romantic relationships and things related to that like romance movies you feel numb to? Feeling numb and finding no enjoyment in things that you used to love doing can be a sign of depression. If this seems more wide spread it might be worth speaking to your GP about it.

Rockinmomma · 31/12/2020 06:26

I felt like this after a very toxic relationship and years of coercion from ExH. I was incredibly cynical and bitter.
I decided to be on my own and 18 months later felt ready to date again. But I’d completely changed my outlook. I think years of bullshit and being walked over just dragged me down and turned me into someone else. Take some time out for yourself, do what you want. Be happy on your own

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