Is it not possible now? Anyone been here?

[Heeees]

Not covid related but exhaustion related from awful couple of break ups in the last two years which had worsened my anxiety. I’m so sad I’m on my own and not in a great place, worrying about the future and often bitterness creeps in.

People seem to say you’ve got to be your best self and be happy and positive or you simply won’t meet someone. I’m trying and I’m in therapy but I’m nowhere near a place where I’m a breezy happy go luckily mindset and honestly I doubt i will ever be fully like that again as I feel truly weathered by things that have happened in the past and not worked out. I am dating and holding down a job and from the outside I look successful and can joke and chat. I’m trying but I’m also miserable inside and can’t extinguish that - I have and I am trying but i know I will still feel it while still on my own.

Has anyone been in a pit and miserable and low and met someone?

It's going to take time, so don't put pressure on yourself. You are in therapy and that is a process.

Instead of looking at what you don't have, look at what you do: you are working on yourself in therapy, you have a job and are dating - all of these are positive.

I know what it's like to be single and want someone. I've been there at times over the years like many others. You cannot magic someone in front of you, so accept that and continue to live your life with hope that someone lovely will come along and want to share a life with you. And why shouldn't they come along? I'm sure you have plenty to offer