I feel ugly compared to DH ex

[unsuree]

Well I guess I need a hand hold, I just feel very down today. We saw DH ex in the supermarket and she is so beautiful, like a model tall and slim with long brown hair. I saw her whilst we were paying for our shopping. it was the first time I've seen her. Her and DH dated about 10 years ago and have not been in contact since. DH didn't seem bothered when we saw her and carried on with the shopping.

I've just been thinking since that he must have downgraded when he married me. I'm not very pretty, my teeth are crooked, Ive been feeling abit down ever since I saw her. I even feel embarrassed writing this. I had a baby 8 months ago and my confidence is all over the place.

When I met my dh I was quite popular and was thin blonde and had my pick of men. My dh was attractive but not confident.. I would have been the better looking of the 2 of us.
10 years later my husband has aged like a fine wine and every one comments how gorgeous he is and he really is. I know he is better looking than me now but that’s ok as he adores me and still thinks I’m beautiful ( I’m a bit meh now) beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Nothing to add except that this is such a kind, supportive thread. Lovely, warms my cynical, wizened heart

I can imagine how that would feel. Would have been better had you not known it was her.

I was a lot slimmer and obviously younger when I met dh. I'm probably 3 stone heavier now and not as attractive but I still feel sexy. It's all about attitude and confidence. Something you can work on.

Be kind to yourself. You've just had a baby. Wish I had that excuse

Aw OP. I consider myself a bit of a minger really - crap teeth, overweight and my DP's ex is much more attractive. She's slim, fit, long hair, gorgeous teeth. But she's fucking rotten inside and he hates her.
He loves me, I make him happy. And he fancied me enough at some point to get into a long term relationship with me, so I can't be all bad.
What's that saying - comparison is the thief of joy? You're fine, chin up

How are you OP?

@PlantPotPat yes rotten inside doesn't make up for a pretty package.

She could have done what I did. When I was with my ex husband, I ended up putting on weight (not intentially), went up to 15 stone and really didn't bother much with clothes as I looked awful anyway . I joined a gym last year and am now in my ex's words hot. I've worked bloody hard to get here, wear what suits me and I feel confident in but I am also missing that one piece that would make me happy and complete - a man that loves me.

What I'm trying to say is that she may not have been like that when they were together, he is with you because he loves you and you make him happy. She is an ex for a reason, they didn't work out. You have something a lot of us would love a man that loves you and a new baby. Don't be hard on yourself.

I know how you feel OP.

DP is 38. I'm 36 and heavily pregnant. I have wrinkles, tiny beady eyes, a horrible smile, and large breasts (DP isn't really into boobs, he prefers a petit body).

His ex is 9 years younger than me! She's 27, slim and proportionate, beautiful with a youthful appearance and lovely smile.

What on earth is he doing with me?!

Thank you all for your messages, they've really lifted me back up.

My husband realised that I've was abit down (didn't tell him why) he turned our living room into a cosy "cinema" and we've been binge watching the lord of the rings😂🤦🏼‍♀️ .
Happy new year everyone!

Yesterday I also spent time pampering myself at home and I feel alot better now.

Aww he's a keeper

Oh and happy new year! 🥳